Month: February 2013
For some men, figuring out the female orgasm can feel like an anthropological expedition to a remote culture you know nothing about and you’re not prepared for. The first and most important step, of course, is for a man to acknowledge that a woman’s orgasm exists and operates in a manner different from his own.…
Read MoreReady for a little ‘love geometry’ lesson? You’ve heard of a ‘love triangle,’ right? That’s when A is married to B and B has an affair with C. You’ve got a triangle. A is connected to B connected to C. OK. Let’s add another person to make this a quadrangle (square). A is married to…
Read MoreFor centuries, philosophers have told us that ‘self-less’ love is the ideal love. Self-less meaning, you love another without any self-interst. If you’re interested in having love in your life and you adopt self-less loving as your goal, you’ll never really get there. It’s as unrealistic and lopsided as a life of total self-interest. Self-less…
Read MoreIt’s time to share a little love-life secret with all my female readers (and I’m going to assume a lot of you already know this). My old friend Ben, whom I believe understood love better than most, used to say to me, in this world women ‘sensitize’ men in a love relationship. To ‘sensitize’ means,…
Read MoreThis post is Part 2 of “Curing the Sexless Marriage.” In the first post, I introduced four out of eight different ‘cures’ for the sexless marriage or committed love relationship. This post will discuss #5 through #8. If you have this problem in your marriage, try one or more of these cures to revitalize your…
Read MoreIf there is ‘love’ in your relationship, chances are there are ‘cures’ for the absence of sex. The question is which of the cures will reignite the passion in your relationship. In most sexless marriages, there was passion, at least at the beginning, and it was allowed to ‘cool.’ The objective now is to bring…
Read MoreGiven our contemporary fascination with ‘dead that moves,’ like walking death, warm corpses, and an assortment of living zombies, I thought it only fitting to write about ‘dead love.’ Paying close attention to the title of this post, you’ll recognize the phrase as an excerpt from traditional marriage vows. The literal meaning is, you’re making…
Read MoreLet’s explore the relationship between how you look and your love-life. First, we should broaden the definition of ‘looks’ to how you look on the outside and the on inside. ‘Looks’ are commonly thought of as how you’ve chosen to physically present yourself in the world. I’m going to ask you to stretch your usual way…
Read MoreIf you believe anger has a prominent place in every love relationship, you probably envision a relationship as a an arrangement between two people that can tolerate a heated exchange of angry feelings. For some people, this would be the true test of love. Ideally, you’d have two people facing off cooperatively engaged in an alternating blast of…
Read MoreAre you obsessed with how many people someone you love has slept with? Why? What kind of information does this provide? Let’s talk about some of the more common questions this kind of information is meant to answer. Does it tell you how experienced your lover is sexually? This one’s easy. If your lover has had…
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