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Gratifying Childhood Losses in Adulthood vs Grieving and Acceptance

Early psychoanalytic theorists like Balint and Winnocott, viewed problems with early parental bonding as the origin of emotional difficulties in ...

Psychological Love Life Defenses: 6. Misrepresentation

This is the last post in the series of posts analyzing common love life defenses that interfere with and complicate ...

Psychological Love Life Defenses: 5. Changing the Person You Love

The last two psychological love life defenses I will analyze in this series of posts are, changing your partner and ...

Psychological Love Life Defenses: 4. Avoiding Love Altogether

Avoiding love relationships is the ultimate love life defense because the individual is out of the game, so to speak. ...

Psychological Love Life Defenses: 3. Habitual Conflict

Some psychological love life defenses are used to make a love relationship "tolerable." This is the case with what I ...

Psychological Love Life Defenses: 2. Keeping Your Emotional Distance in a Love Relationship

One of the easiest ways to be in a love relationship when you have unresolved emotional intimacy issues, is to ...

Psychological Love Life Defenses: 1. Denying You Have a Love Life Problem

Ever since I began studying the unhealthy love life from an interpersonal psychoanalytic perspective, I've noticed quite a few people ...

Porn and Emotional Intimacy in Men’s Love Lives

Pornography is a common form of physical sexual release in our digital age. The internet has made it so. As ...

Teaching Audiences How To Work On Their Love Lives

"There is nothing better than a room full of people interested in love!" This is my opening line whenever I'm ...

Repairing Your Disappointing Love Life

I created a highly effective psychological method of improving a disappointing love life. I call it the Love Life Consultation. ...

Meeting the Unique Individual: The Theory & Practice of Benjamin Wolstein, Ph.D.

I knew the late Dr. Benjamin Wolstein as a teacher, supervisor, psychoanalyst, and as the extraordinary individual he was. This ...

Understanding the Trauma in Sexual Trauma

With all the current difficulty figuring out who is and is not responsible for the sexual abuse of minors in ...