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If you’re thinking about marriage but aren’t sure how to pick a good spouse, this audio series provides you with the psychological information needed when choosing a spouse. I talk about what can interfere with choosing the best spouse, and describe the kind of relationship that will grow your love and make it last. I’ll discuss the issues involved in figuring out your lover’s readiness for marriage by clarifying the things you’d want and not want in your marriage. I conclude with the questions you should ask yourself when contemplating marriage and challenge some ideas that could interfere with making the right choice.

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If you’re thinking about using internet dating sites to meet people, or you’ve used them before without success, or you’ve had bad experiences online, this audio series can help you understand the psychological issues involved. I’ll talk about ‘meeting of the minds’ online versus ‘meeting of the bodies’ in traditional dating, and the problem with identifying who you’re talking to. I speak about ‘misrepresentation’ and how to beat it with questions, your natural sensitivity to deception, and use of time. I conclude with an effective model of internet dating and challenge a few false ideas that could interfere with your goal to meet eligible people online.

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If you are experiencing loneliness and would like to deepen your understanding of this problem and explore solutions, this audio download series will provide you with the information you’ll need to get started. I begin this audio series with a discussion of what loneliness is. I talk about the different types of loneliness, and describe the primary causes of loneliness, namely, trouble connecting to someone and trouble being by your self. I then challenge a few ways of thinking that can promote loneliness in your life and present the various tasks involved in a psychological solution to loneliness.

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If you’re having a difficult time making a love commitment either for the first time or as a recurrent pattern in your love-life, this audio download series will give you the information you’ll need to take the risk. I’ll discuss what a love commitment involves, and the freedom that occurs when you fall in love, commit to that love, and decide to stop searching for love. I’ll talk about the various ways you might be avoiding a commitment and discuss a few beliefs and psychological defenses you might have that support an avoidance of commitment. This audio concludes with a practical discussion of the various things you can do to make a commitment easier to risk.

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If you’re addicted to pornography, this audio series will provide you with the information needed to understand your addiction and reduce your dependence. I invite you to think about pornography in new and different ways. Join me in an open-minded understanding of what pornography really is. I’ll offer you psychological information that empowers you to understand pornography, why it’s so addictive, and how to loosen the hold it has on your emotions. The more you understand pornography and it effects on you, the better able you’ll be to take the practical steps needed to control its influence and get help if you can’t. CAUTION: This audio contains some explicit sexual language used for the purpose of illustration.

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If you’re in trouble with your lover and you need to know how to ‘work’ on your love relationship, this audio download series will discuss the various ways you can begin improving your relationship. I’ll discuss the psychological issues involved in promoting and sustaining a healthy love relationship. I’ll present practical ideas you can immediately use to develop your relationship. Topics like the importance of communication in sustaining a relationship, and managing the influence of your families of origin. I’ll also discuss the issue of emotional independence, and letting go of earlier love-life disappointments that may be negatively affecting your love relationship.

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If you’re in an abusive love relationship and you’re not sure what to do about it, this audio download series will provide you with the information you’ll need to begin changing your love-life. This audio begins with a discussion of the types of abuse that can occur in a love relationship. I will talk about the feelings you’re struggling with, and help you understand the limited beliefs you may have about yourself, your lover, and your relationship that support and promote abuse. I’ll offer you alternative ideas and an understanding that will help you make improvements in your love-life.

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If your lover has cheated on you, or you suspect your lover will cheat on you, and you’re not sure what to do about it, this audio download series will give you the information you’ll need to make the right decisions for yourself. I’ll start with a discussion of what you’re going through having to deal with this critical love-life problem. I describe the decisions you’ll need to make to figure out whether or not you’ll be able to fix this problem in your love relationship. I’ll review the various things you’ll need to consider if you want to recommit to your relationship or choose to leave the relationship. I close with a discussion of some of the false beliefs you might have that interfere with solving the problem of cheating or infidelity.

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If your family of origin is interfering with your love-life choices, this audio download series will provide you with the information you’ll need to develop your own personal strategy to take back your love-life. I’ll discuss how you’ve been sacrificing your love-life. I’ll also talk about a healthy family’s psychological objective of helping grown children create positive self-esteem, an ability to be in love, and a love-life beyond the family of origin. You’ll understand the various ways your family can interfere with your developing ability to love a stranger beyond your family and what to do about it. This audio download ends with a challenging discussion of the false beliefs you might have that support an underdeveloped love-life.

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If you feel emotionally unprepared for a love relationship in your life, this audio download series will provide you with some practical ideas on how to get yourself psychologically ready for your next love relationship. When love arrives you’ll be better prepared to receive it and take proper care of it. You can prepare for love by knowing and practicing the most receptive state of mind, and by learning how to create the type of relationship that can best contain and grow love when it arrives. This audio download starts with a discussion of the emotional experience of living without a lover. From there I focus on the things you can do to psychologically prepare yourself for the next experience of love.

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If you need to leave your love relationship and you’re struggling with the emotions involved, this audio series will provide you with the information you’ll need to leave in the healthiest way possible. This audio starts with a discussion of the different feelings that occur when leaving a relationship. I discuss the experience of constructively ending a relationship, how you can tell if your relationship is over, and the various ways you might convince yourself to stay in the relationship even when you know it’s time to go. I’ll discuss ways to leave your  relationship, what to do if you don’t feel ready to leave, and some false beliefs that support unhealthy ways of leaving.

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If you’re going through a divorce and need to better understand the emotional issues involved, this audio download series contains the information you’ll need to successfully get yourself through this emotional crisis in your love-life. I start with a discussion of the various emotional experiences you’ll have and can expect to have as you go through the divorce process. I’ll focus on the emotional ‘stages’ of a divorce and a few false beliefs about marriage and divorce that can make the experience of divorce more difficult.

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