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Welcome to the Love Life Learning Center. I’m Dr. Thomas Jordan, a clinical psychologist and love life researcher in New York City. I created this website to help people with love life problems find the information they’ll need to solve them.
There’s a lot of inaccurate information and opinions out there. You owe it to yourself to get the quality information that will help you improve your love life.
I know many of you have been trying to cope with repeating disappointments that have left you feeling hurt, heartbroken, frustrated, or lonely.
You cycle between feeling hopeful that you’ll finally find a healthy love relationship, and periods when you feel hopeless and think “what’s the use.”
You don’t want to stop looking for a healthy love relationship, but you don’t want to be repeatedly hurt either. You’re sick of going in and out of disappointing love relationships, but you don’t want to settle for someone you don’t really want or love.
You’re fighting hard to remain in the “game of love” and not resign yourself to living without love in your life. You could use a little help.
For starters, looking for information means you’re on your way to solving the problem. In this website you’ll find the answers you’ve been looking for.
I also wrote a book you can use right away. Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life is for people who want to learn how to stop repeating love life disappointments and do something about their resignation.
I wrote this book because, with a little help, I was able to successfully change my own love life. I want to show you how you can do the same.
You don’t have to live with repetitive love life mistakes and disappointments. Your love life belongs to you. Learn how to take control of it.
You’ve come to the right place.
Dr. Thomas Jordan
Clinical Psychologist
Love Life Researcher
Founder, Love Life Learning Center
Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life
Thomas Jordan, Ph.D.
A how-to guide for people struggling with repeating love life disappointments or painful feelings of resignation that they’ll never find love in their lives. As a result of the author’s extensive clinical research and treatment experience as a New York City clinical psychologist, he discovered it is what people learn about love relationships in their lives that determines the health of their love lives. Too many people are not in control of their love lives, replicating what they have learned from unhealthy relationship experiences over and over again in their love relationships. Dr. Jordan developed The Unlearning Method, a highly effective 3-step method of identifying what was learned and changing what is unhealthy for much greater success in forming and sustaining a healthy love relationship.
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Thomas Jordan, Ph.D. writes beautifully and renders a complex message so simple that readers clearly understand how to transform their relationships. The book is packed with tips that help anyone to improve their relationship. A powerful guide, especially for those with painful love relationship experiences.
Christian Sia
The text was easy to read and understand from a lay perspective with little psycho jargon and I think the author did a tremendous job of clearly laying it out. A couple of takes from this book that will serve me wonderfully in life are 1/ there is no point in looking for the “perfect” partner – that person simply doesn’t exist - and 2/ you can NEVER change someone else.
Grant Leishman
It is a good book to make changes to unhealthy love lives and to look at the love life formula in a positive way. The author's techniques and suggestions will help readers learn to relate to love in a healthy way. It is a good book for readers to understand their psychological love life and make changes there.
Mamta Madhavan
Dr Jordan gives you the tools to find answers, goes into each possibility in depth, and then shows you how to change: “Remember, the only person you can change is yourself”. I recommend Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life with confidence; Thomas Jordan Ph.D. has included his personal experience of practicing what he preaches.
Sarah Stuart
Learn to Love by Thomas Jordan, Ph.D. is a good book and is obviously needed in a world where the divorce rate is as high as 50% in America. Thomas makes some good points and I appreciated the various examples he has provided throughout the book that show how parental conditioning affects who we are today.
Gisela Dixon
This is a book about love relationships, how to unlearn bad habits and learn new ones. It's thought-provoking and enlightening in equal measures. Highly recommended. I'd like to thank the publisher for sending a copy to the Bookbag: it was a fascinating, enlightening read and one to which I'll return.
Sue Maggie
It is a welcome thing indeed to come across a treasure Dr. Jordan's book, a friendly guide book helping the reader get through the jungle of confusion of the heart. His book is an easy captivating message that can hold your hand as you continue along your search to find love. What better time to do so than on Valentine’s Day.
Dr. Tom Ferraro
Loved it! A simple and concise guidebook to learning about your patterns of behavior when it comes to love relationships.
C.E. Flores
At 132 pages, the book was an easy read excelling in clarity and organization. The product of Dr. Jordan’s thirty-year experience of researching and treating chronic love life problems, Learn to Love expertly guides its readers through the sinuous meanders of past, present, and future love relationships.
Cristinaro
Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life is a captivating book that will help you learn to love and broaden your perspectives on love and this is courtesy of the sensational author, Thomas Jordan Ph.D.
Amiee Ann
Framed within the context of his own experiences Dr. Jordan has penned a powerful and meaningful book that is thought-provoking and decidedly unpretentious. A must-read for those looking for guidance and healing it is recommended without reservation.
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Wonderful book for therapists and anyone interested in how to effectively work on their love lives. Clear writing about the psychology of changing your love life by a practicing psychologist and psychoanalyst. Easy for anyone to grasp and utilize in their own love lives.
Dr. Barbara Dusansky
A psychologist explains how to stop repeating relationship mistakes.
Dr. Jordan’s ideas, as laid out over the course of this book, are hardly revolutionary, but his clearly written work may still be illuminating for readers who can’t figure out how to break unhelpful cycles. In addition, Dr. Jordan’s approach is appealingly judgment-free in tone, as he aims to help both those who’ve been hurt as well as those who may have done the hurting.
Kirkus Reviews
Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life by Thomas Jordan Ph.D. examines love relationships, both healthy and unhealthy, and analyzes the conscious and unconscious factors that influence the types of love relationships people form. I loved reading this book. It is informative, enriching and well structured. The content is also very relevant and useful.
Artisan Book Reviews
Learn to Love is the book we all need to read. I found it revealed a lot about how I, and others I know, create and then struggle to form long-lasting, meaningful relationships with partners we are truly satisfied with. It is an interesting and informative book, which looks at how we unconsciously effect the relationships we develop with each other.
Elle Alouette
Exceptionally informed and informative, insightful, practical, and thoroughly 'reader friendly' in tone, commentary, organization and presentation, "Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life" is an ideal and unreservedly recommended addition to community library Self-Help/Self-Improvement collections.
"Learn to Love" reveals how to unlearn this unhealthy learning and form the love relationships you've always wanted to have. The simple formula presented within the pages of "Learn to Love" has helped many of Dr. Jordan's patients begin taking control of their love lives, and as Dr. Jordan discloses, it has helped him improve his own love life as well.
Midwest Book Review
The book gave a clear idea about a healthy and unhealthy relationship, how to avoid it, and deal with your emotions because the only thing we can control in a love relationship is the way we relate in love. I enjoy reading this book, it provides insights that we all need to stay happy in a love alliance.
Books Charming/Aakanksha Jain
Learn to Love was an amazing find for learning about how to develop and maintain healthy love relationships. The content is informative and provides a well-structured guide for fleshing out problems and resolving them to become a better version of you in your love relationships.
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10/10
Informative, personal, and passionately written, author Dr. Thomas Jordan’s “Learn to Love” is a masterful reading experience that readers will not soon forget. Built to highlight the experiences of love throughout multiple aspects of one’s life and how we need to learn from those experiences to escape unhealthy relationships overall, this book is a quick yet fascinating journey into the aspect of love in our lives and deserves to be read. Be sure to grab your copy today!
Anthony Avina
5*s from me, as I loved the psychology in this book, and can recommend this book to anyone who finds themselves in repeatedly unsatisfactory relationships, and wants to learn how to meet people that are right for them. Although the book is in easy to read and digest sections, the process of changing long held thought processes is something that needs time and effort, so this is a book to work with and keep referring to.
Emma
Anyone who likes to educate themselves and find peace within the structure of their upbringing and receive answers will find this book to be beneficial. The book is written with care. The literature is easy to understand, and the pace is steady. The subjects are organized well, and it is clear that the content is written by a professional.
Jeyran Main
This is an extremely valuable and informative book. Dr. Thomas Jordan has been able to encapsulate years of psychotherapy knowledge into a well-articulated, step-by-step practice that allows individuals to discover ways to experience a healthier love life.
R. Exelbert, Ph.D.
Dr. Jordan challenges readers to identify what they’ve learned, challenge what they’ve learned, and then try something new. As you can tell, Dr. Jordan’s explanations are easy-to-understand and his examples are clear and concise.
Yecheilyah Ysrayl
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D.A. on Google
Dr. Jordan’s ability to listen, assimilate, and consequently disseminate advice in a very doable fashion is a rare gift indeed. But it is also his experience and know-how that makes him so good at his chosen field. Be it advice on love relationships, family, or work, he is the right prescription for me!
R.R.
My life skills have made a dramatic increase!!! Dr. Jordan has really made a difference in my life; and for that hats off with much gratitude!!!
L.C. on Google
Dr. Jordan helped me in so many ways. He helped me to look outside myself to see things from another perspective other than my own. I’m so happy to have listened to someone who has taken this subject very seriously. He is very knowledgeable and he actually cares. The thought of people learning to truly love their mates, what a better world we would have. He has made an impact on my relationship and things are going a lot more smoothly. He is my secret Angel and I’m forever grateful to him.
A.B.
Dr. Jordan has thoroughly studied and intensely contemplated life and love. This is no sit-back-and-listen type of therapist. I was one of many patients but he was always interested in my particular problems. He understood love-life issues to their core and had the expertise to coax, pull, persuade, and gently push the deep-rooted conflicts into the light. I would not have what I have today, my wonderful loving family and happy life, without his help. If you are contemplating a foray into your love-life travails work with Dr. Jordan. It’s your best bet to finding a happier more loving life.
J.R.
I love Dr. Jordan. He listens, he is attentive and gives sound advice. Highly recommended.
K.N. on Google
Working with Dr. Jordan has been a wonderful experience. After finding Dr. Jordan I now know that finding a therapist of his caliber is one in a million. He’s such a trusting person and shows genuine concern. Visiting with him is like spending time with a friend that you only dreamed you had. His attention is felt, his words are gentle, and his advice sincere. He has the ability to understand love and life, and the issues that come along with it. And he has a wonderful sense of humor. He allows you to speak freely, without any judgment, and makes you feel comfortable. When you’re ready to talk he’s there to listen. Thank you again Dr. Jordan for being the silent partner in my life. You make me believe AGAIN.
M.R.
I have been going to see Dr. Jordan for about fourteen months. His advice and insight have been invaluable to my mental and spiritual growth. He helps me with my love life and a wide variety of issues. Dr. Jordan helps me understand the opposite sex and he guides me through what would otherwise be an emotional mind field. I highly recommend him and trust him completely.
M.S
My prayers were answered when God lead me to Dr. Jordan. When I think about how far I have come, through the help and wisdom of Dr. Jordan, I still shed a tear. He taught me love is a risk and I have to accept the things that are realistic concerning my husband. Through Dr. Jordan, I’ve learned to love softer and allow room for love. Thank God for Dr. Jordan he is a man of integrity. This is not just a job for him for he truly cares about my well being.
S.B.
A really good Doctor.
K.S. on Google
I was in the middle of a transition when I began to see Dr. Thomas Jordan. I was searching for something in life. After the help I received from him, I now realize that it was always right here and always within. I was able to get on the right track, which allows me to start getting it right.
M.D.
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