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Welcome to the Love Life Learning Center. I’m Dr. Thomas Jordan, a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst in New York City. After three decades of researching and treating love life difficulties, I created this website to help people with love life problems find the information they’ll need to solve them.
There’s a lot of inaccurate information and opinions out there. You owe it to yourself to get the quality information you’ll need to improve your love life. I know many of you have been trying to cope with repeating love life disappointments that have left you feeling hurt, heartbroken, frustrated or lonely. On this website you’ll find the answers you’ve been looking for.
You’ve come to the right place. Remember, your love life belongs to you, learn how to work on it.
Dr. Thomas Jordan
Clinical Psychologist/Psychoanalyst
Founder, Love Life Learning Center
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D.A. on Google
Dr. Jordan’s ability to listen, assimilate, and consequently disseminate advice in a very doable fashion is a rare gift indeed. But it is also his experience and know-how that makes him so good at his chosen field. Be it advice on love relationships, family, or work, he is the right prescription for me!
R.R.
My life skills have made a dramatic increase!!! Dr. Jordan has really made a difference in my life; and for that hats off with much gratitude!!!
L.C. on Google
Dr. Jordan helped me in so many ways. He helped me to look outside myself to see things from another perspective other than my own. I’m so happy to have listened to someone who has taken this subject very seriously. He is very knowledgeable and he actually cares. The thought of people learning to truly love their mates, what a better world we would have. He has made an impact on my relationship and things are going a lot more smoothly. He is my secret Angel and I’m forever grateful to him.
A.B.
Dr. Jordan has thoroughly studied and intensely contemplated life and love. This is no sit-back-and-listen type of therapist. I was one of many patients but he was always interested in my particular problems. He understood love-life issues to their core and had the expertise to coax, pull, persuade, and gently push the deep-rooted conflicts into the light. I would not have what I have today, my wonderful loving family and happy life, without his help. If you are contemplating a foray into your love-life travails work with Dr. Jordan. It’s your best bet to finding a happier more loving life.
J.R.
I love Dr. Jordan. He listens, he is attentive and gives sound advice. Highly recommended.
K.N. on Google
Working with Dr. Jordan has been a wonderful experience. After finding Dr. Jordan I now know that finding a therapist of his caliber is one in a million. He’s such a trusting person and shows genuine concern. Visiting with him is like spending time with a friend that you only dreamed you had. His attention is felt, his words are gentle, and his advice sincere. He has the ability to understand love and life, and the issues that come along with it. And he has a wonderful sense of humor. He allows you to speak freely, without any judgment, and makes you feel comfortable. When you’re ready to talk he’s there to listen. Thank you again Dr. Jordan for being the silent partner in my life. You make me believe AGAIN.
M.R.
I have been going to see Dr. Jordan for about fourteen months. His advice and insight have been invaluable to my mental and spiritual growth. He helps me with my love life and a wide variety of issues. Dr. Jordan helps me understand the opposite sex and he guides me through what would otherwise be an emotional mind field. I highly recommend him and trust him completely.
M.S
My prayers were answered when God lead me to Dr. Jordan. When I think about how far I have come, through the help and wisdom of Dr. Jordan, I still shed a tear. He taught me love is a risk and I have to accept the things that are realistic concerning my husband. Through Dr. Jordan, I’ve learned to love softer and allow room for love. Thank God for Dr. Jordan he is a man of integrity. This is not just a job for him for he truly cares about my well being.
S.B.
A really good Doctor.
K.S. on Google
I was in the middle of a transition when I began to see Dr. Thomas Jordan. I was searching for something in life. After the help I received from him, I now realize that it was always right here and always within. I was able to get on the right track, which allows me to start getting it right.
M.D.
Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life
Thomas Jordan, Ph.D.
Kirkus Book Review
A psychologist explains how to stop repeating relationship mistakes…
Dr. Jordan’s approach is appealingly judgment-free in tone, as he aims to help both those who’ve been hurt as well as those who may have done the hurting. Throughout, his emphasis is on looking forward and not castigating oneself for previous mistakes. A chapter in which the author opens up about his own love life is particularly helpful in showing how his process works. Useful guidance for breaking out of unhealthy patterns and learning how to have a mature, fulfilling love life.
New York City, Big Book Award
Distinguished Favorite
2020
The IAN Book of The Year Awards
Finalist
2021
Thomas Jordan, Ph.D. writes beautifully and renders a complex message so simple that readers clearly understand how to transform their relationships. The book is packed with tips that help anyone to improve their relationship. A powerful guide, especially for those with painful love relationship experiences.
Christian Sia
The text was easy to read and understand from a lay perspective with little psycho jargon and I think the author did a tremendous job of clearly laying it out. A couple of takes from this book that will serve me wonderfully in life are 1/ there is no point in looking for the “perfect” partner – that person simply doesn’t exist - and 2/ you can NEVER change someone else.
Grant Leishman
It is a good book to make changes to unhealthy love lives and to look at the love life formula in a positive way. The author's techniques and suggestions will help readers learn to relate to love in a healthy way. It is a good book for readers to understand their psychological love life and make changes there.
Mamta Madhavan
Dr Jordan gives you the tools to find answers, goes into each possibility in depth, and then shows you how to change: “Remember, the only person you can change is yourself”. I recommend Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life with confidence; Thomas Jordan Ph.D. has included his personal experience of practicing what he preaches.
Sarah Stuart
Learn to Love by Thomas Jordan, Ph.D. is a good book and is obviously needed in a world where the divorce rate is as high as 50% in America. Thomas makes some good points and I appreciated the various examples he has provided throughout the book that show how parental conditioning affects who we are today.
Gisela Dixon
This is a book about love relationships, how to unlearn bad habits and learn new ones. It's thought-provoking and enlightening in equal measures. Highly recommended. I'd like to thank the publisher for sending a copy to the Bookbag: it was a fascinating, enlightening read and one to which I'll return.
Sue Maggie
It is a welcome thing indeed to come across a treasure Dr. Jordan's book, a friendly guide book helping the reader get through the jungle of confusion of the heart. His book is an easy captivating message that can hold your hand as you continue along your search to find love. What better time to do so than on Valentine’s Day.
Dr. Tom Ferraro
Loved it! A simple and concise guidebook to learning about your patterns of behavior when it comes to love relationships.
C.E. Flores
At 132 pages, the book was an easy read excelling in clarity and organization. The product of Dr. Jordan’s thirty-year experience of researching and treating chronic love life problems, Learn to Love expertly guides its readers through the sinuous meanders of past, present, and future love relationships.
Cristinaro
Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life is a captivating book that will help you learn to love and broaden your perspectives on love and this is courtesy of the sensational author, Thomas Jordan Ph.D.
Amiee Ann
Framed within the context of his own experiences Dr. Jordan has penned a powerful and meaningful book that is thought-provoking and decidedly unpretentious. A must-read for those looking for guidance and healing it is recommended without reservation.
Book Viral Reviews
Wonderful book for therapists and anyone interested in how to effectively work on their love lives. Clear writing about the psychology of changing your love life by a practicing psychologist and psychoanalyst. Easy for anyone to grasp and utilize in their own love lives.
Dr. Barbara Dusansky
A psychologist explains how to stop repeating relationship mistakes.
Dr. Jordan’s ideas, as laid out over the course of this book, are hardly revolutionary, but his clearly written work may still be illuminating for readers who can’t figure out how to break unhelpful cycles. In addition, Dr. Jordan’s approach is appealingly judgment-free in tone, as he aims to help both those who’ve been hurt as well as those who may have done the hurting.
Kirkus Reviews
Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life by Thomas Jordan Ph.D. examines love relationships, both healthy and unhealthy, and analyzes the conscious and unconscious factors that influence the types of love relationships people form. I loved reading this book. It is informative, enriching and well structured. The content is also very relevant and useful.
Artisan Book Reviews
Learn to Love is the book we all need to read. I found it revealed a lot about how I, and others I know, create and then struggle to form long-lasting, meaningful relationships with partners we are truly satisfied with. It is an interesting and informative book, which looks at how we unconsciously effect the relationships we develop with each other.
Elle Alouette
Exceptionally informed and informative, insightful, practical, and thoroughly 'reader friendly' in tone, commentary, organization and presentation, "Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life" is an ideal and unreservedly recommended addition to community library Self-Help/Self-Improvement collections.
"Learn to Love" reveals how to unlearn this unhealthy learning and form the love relationships you've always wanted to have. The simple formula presented within the pages of "Learn to Love" has helped many of Dr. Jordan's patients begin taking control of their love lives, and as Dr. Jordan discloses, it has helped him improve his own love life as well.
Midwest Book Review
The book gave a clear idea about a healthy and unhealthy relationship, how to avoid it, and deal with your emotions because the only thing we can control in a love relationship is the way we relate in love. I enjoy reading this book, it provides insights that we all need to stay happy in a love alliance.
Books Charming/Aakanksha Jain
Learn to Love was an amazing find for learning about how to develop and maintain healthy love relationships. The content is informative and provides a well-structured guide for fleshing out problems and resolving them to become a better version of you in your love relationships.
Carolyn M. Bowen on BookBub
10/10
Informative, personal, and passionately written, author Dr. Thomas Jordan’s “Learn to Love” is a masterful reading experience that readers will not soon forget. Built to highlight the experiences of love throughout multiple aspects of one’s life and how we need to learn from those experiences to escape unhealthy relationships overall, this book is a quick yet fascinating journey into the aspect of love in our lives and deserves to be read. Be sure to grab your copy today!
Anthony Avina
5*s from me, as I loved the psychology in this book, and can recommend this book to anyone who finds themselves in repeatedly unsatisfactory relationships, and wants to learn how to meet people that are right for them. Although the book is in easy to read and digest sections, the process of changing long held thought processes is something that needs time and effort, so this is a book to work with and keep referring to.
Emma
Anyone who likes to educate themselves and find peace within the structure of their upbringing and receive answers will find this book to be beneficial. The book is written with care. The literature is easy to understand, and the pace is steady. The subjects are organized well, and it is clear that the content is written by a professional.
Jeyran Main
This is an extremely valuable and informative book. Dr. Thomas Jordan has been able to encapsulate years of psychotherapy knowledge into a well-articulated, step-by-step practice that allows individuals to discover ways to experience a healthier love life.
R. Exelbert, Ph.D.
Dr. Jordan challenges readers to identify what they’ve learned, challenge what they’ve learned, and then try something new. As you can tell, Dr. Jordan’s explanations are easy-to-understand and his examples are clear and concise.
Yecheilyah Ysrayl
I truly enjoyed the book. I must commend the conversational tone the author used. It makes the reader feel at ease while reading the book. I gladly rate this book 4 out of 4 stars for the captivating and educational content. I found nothing to dislike. Also, there were no grammatical errors noticed.
Chizioboli
I give this book four out of four stars. The book is truly spectacular, and the aforementioned issues were not enough to reduce the rating. I found the book to be more beneficial than I originally thought; I learnt a lot about myself and I am glad I read it.
Zainherb
The book contains very few typos and the terminology is simple to understand without being drawn away. I would therefore rate this book 4 out of 4 stars since it was professionally edited. The book's proper alignment also affirms this.
Shillah A.
I am glad that the book is also professionally edited. I found only a few typographical errors in it, and it didn't affect my comprehension and love for the book. Therefore, I'm happy to give this book a perfect rating of four out of four stars because it gives hope, enhances a better love life, and helps those struggling with emotional problems.
Miriam Nkere
There was nothing I disliked about this book and therefore give it a perfect rating of 4 out of 4 stars. We all need to give, receive and maintain love. I'd therefore recommend this book to all readers, especially those who want to learn about love relationships.
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PRESENTATION
“How Do I Fix My Love Life?”
By Thomas Jordan, Ph.D.
Dr. Jordan shows audiences how to make the psychological changes that will dramatically improve their ability to form and sustain a healthy love relationship.
Individuals who are interested in improving their love lives or work with the love lives of other people will:
- Learn how a love life can become repetitively disappointing
- Learn how to accurately identify what they’ve unconsciously learned about love relationships
- Learn a clinically proven 3-step method of unlearning what is not working in their love lives
This presentation is derived from years of love life research and the award-winning book Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life. Available to public and corporate audiences. Inquire at drtomjordan@lovelifelearningcenter.com.
Featured Interviews
Dr. Thomas Jordan was featured in Alan Pratt’s Intimate Conversations.
Myself and my partner have a podcast called Rekindling Relationships, we read Dr. Thomas Jordan’s book and found it to be most informative and helpful. In an easy-to-understand way, he explains the “Psychological Love Life” where the learned destructive patterns are stored and how we can unlearn these. We thoroughly enjoyed the book and thoroughly enjoyed talking to Dr. Thomas Jordan. Thanks for the great book, it’s a must read! Thanks for joining us on our podcast.
Bec and Vern, Rekindling Relationships Podcast
Dr. Thomas truly shares information and communicates it in a way that is digestible for the listeners to grasp, understand and take action with. In the episode, we talked about a wealth of topics that related to relationships, love, marriage, divorce and the reasons why and sharing solutions gives people the opportunity to be empowered. Thanks for sharing your gifts, Dr. Thomas!
Dr. Vic Manzo, The Mindful Experiment
It’s so good when you get on a call to someone that you’ve never met before, particularly when you’ve been highly unprofessional and not done much background research, as was the case with me (apologies, Tom!), yet you still have an in-depth conversation that goes way beyond the scheduled time frame because you’re both just having so much fun.
I love the fact that Tom was willing to just follow my questions wherever they meandered and dive deep into areas that might not have been on his agenda. Every minute of the interview was good listening, and while I could edit it down to one episode, I’ve instead extended my interview with Tom to cover two episodes because it was all juicy stuff. In case you can’t guess from this ever-so-slightly embarrassingly gushy review, I highly recommend Dr. Tom Jordan as a guest and I’d love to him as a guest on my podcast again in the future.
Karen O'Connor, Menopause, Marriage and Motherhood Podcast
My husband Cedric & I host TMC Podcast and we had the pleasure of having Dr. Thomas Jordan as a guest. Dr. Jordan is a worth of knowledge. He’s friendly, polite and professional. Our conversation with him was enlightening and mind shifting. His passion for helping others to live better fuller lives is evident in his message. The nuggets he shared has already impacted our lives and we are sure it will do the same for everyone who hears the interview!
Cedric & Shante Francis, TMC Podcast Hosts
Dr. Thomas Jordan was an amazing guest for the Empowered Relationship Podcast. He is extremely informed, experienced and articulate. I really appreciated his focus on resilience and corrective learning. His message felt compassionate and honest, as well as inspiring and empowering. I believe listeners received a lot of value from his episode. He was easy to talk to and very relatable. I really enjoyed our conversation and would easily invite him back again.