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Welcome to our Love Life Learning Center. I’m Dr. Thomas Jordan, a clinical psychologist, and standing next to me is my wife and colleague, Victoria Jordan LCSW, an experienced psychotherapist and couple therapist. If you have love life problems, you’ll need information to help you understand and solve them. This blog was built to help you find the information you’ll need to solve your love life problems.

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5 stars

Thomas Jordan, Ph.D. writes beautifully and renders a complex message so simple that readers clearly understand how to transform their relationships. The book is packed with tips that help anyone to improve their relationship. A powerful guide, especially for those with painful love relationship experiences.

Christian Sia

5 stars

The text was easy to read and understand from a lay perspective with little psycho jargon and I think the author did a tremendous job of clearly laying it out. A couple of takes from this book that will serve me wonderfully in life are 1/ there is no point in looking for the “perfect” partner – that person simply doesn’t exist - and 2/ you can NEVER change someone else.

Grant Leishman

5 stars

It is a good book to make changes to unhealthy love lives and to look at the love life formula in a positive way. The author's techniques and suggestions will help readers learn to relate to love in a healthy way. It is a good book for readers to understand their psychological love life and make changes there.

Mamta Madhavan

5 stars

Dr Jordan gives you the tools to find answers, goes into each possibility in depth, and then shows you how to change: “Remember, the only person you can change is yourself”. I recommend Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life with confidence; Thomas Jordan Ph.D. has included his personal experience of practicing what he preaches.

Sarah Stuart

5 stars

Learn to Love by Thomas Jordan, Ph.D. is a good book and is obviously needed in a world where the divorce rate is as high as 50% in America. Thomas makes some good points and I appreciated the various examples he has provided throughout the book that show how parental conditioning affects who we are today.

Gisela Dixon

45 stars

This is a book about love relationships, how to unlearn bad habits and learn new ones. It's thought-provoking and enlightening in equal measures. Highly recommended. I'd like to thank the publisher for sending a copy to the Bookbag: it was a fascinating, enlightening read and one to which I'll return.

Sue Maggie

5 stars

It is a welcome thing indeed to come across a treasure Dr. Jordan's book, a friendly guide book helping the reader get through the jungle of confusion of the heart. His book is an easy captivating message that can hold your hand as you continue along your search to find love. What better time to do so than on Valentine’s Day.

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