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Welcome to the Love Life Learning Center. I’m Dr. Thomas Jordan, a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst in New York City. After three decades of researching and treating love life difficulties, I created this website to help people with love life problems find the information they’ll need to solve them.

There’s a lot of inaccurate information and opinions out there. You owe it to yourself to get the quality information you’ll need to improve your love life. I know many of you have been trying to cope with repeating love life disappointments that have left you feeling hurt, heartbroken, frustrated or lonely. On this website you’ll find the answers you’ve been looking for.

You’ve come to the right place. Remember, your love life belongs to you, learn how to work on it.

Dr. Thomas Jordan

Clinical Psychologist/Psychoanalyst

Founder, Love Life Learning Center

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Dr. Thomas Jordan was featured in Ivan Farber's latest podcast episode of Conversations About Conversations.


“How Do I Fix My Love Life?”

By Thomas Jordan, Ph.D.

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Dr. Jordan shows audiences how to make the psychological changes that will dramatically improve their ability to form and sustain a healthy love relationship.

Individuals who work with the love lives of other people or are interested in improving their own love lives will:

  • Learn how a love life can become repetitively disappointing
  • Learn how to accurately identify what they’ve unconsciously learned about love relationships
  • Learn a clinically proven 3-step method of unlearning what is not working in their love lives

This presentation is derived from years of love life research and the award-winning book Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life. Available to public and corporate audiences. Inquire at drtomjordan@lovelifelearningcenter.com.

Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life

Thomas Jordan, Ph.D.

Guide to the easiest, quickest, most reliable way to improve your love life

Learn how to stop repeating love life disappointments and avoid resignation

Identify what you’ve learned about love relationships and whether or not it was healthy

Learn how to unlearn what you’ve learned if it was unhealthy

Learn to Love will show you how to take control of your love life

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A psychologist explains how to stop repeating relationship mistakes…

Dr. Jordan’s approach is appealingly judgment-free in tone, as he aims to help both those who’ve been hurt as well as those who may have done the hurting. Throughout, his emphasis is on looking forward and not castigating oneself for previous mistakes. A chapter in which the author opens up about his own love life is particularly helpful in showing how his process works. Useful guidance for breaking out of unhealthy patterns and learning how to have a mature, fulfilling love life.


New York City, Big Book Award
Distinguished Favorite

Finalist 2021

The IAN Book of The Year Awards

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Repeating love life disappointments or resigned to a life without love? We’ll help you identify what is complicating your love life and show you how to fix it. Private love life consultations, phone sessions, strictly confidential, reasonable fee.

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