Dr. Jordan
You’ve fallen in Love, that mysterious emotion we humans are unable to predict or control. My description of the emotion with the little “in” before the word Love would be: a cross between acute excitement, emotional and physical needs you didn’t know you had, mild to moderate upset some call “butterflies,” a dose of anxiety…
Read MoreThere are essentially two ways that “being in love” with more than one person or what is currently called a “polyamorous” love life can occur in a person’s love life. The first I refer to as “substituting love partners” and the second way is by setting up a love life where you love more than…
Read MoreWhy is it so hard to change our love lives? I’ve known so many people who have made the same mistakes over and over again in their love relationships, as if they were committed to doing what will (and does) inevitably ruin their love lives. Whatever we believe about love relationships, do in a love…
Read MoreI have decided to rewrite this post a couple of times because of what I’ve learned about this topic from the commentary and reactions sent to me over the many months since I’ve posted it. This post is a lot different from the others I have written on this blog. One important difference is the…
Read MoreThere is one problem that has been plaguing humankind since the beginning. Our human tendency to convert uncomfortable vulnerable feelings into anger and its sick cousin rage. This human problem is particularly important in times of stress and recovery. You guessed it, like after a long pandemic. What are the vulnerable feelings we are supposed to…
Read MoreIf you’re in a love relationship and experiencing repeating relationship problems, this article will outline a highly effective and reliable way of making permanent improvements in your relationship. First, remember that what you experience in your love life is determined by your psychological love life, the “blueprint” you have in the back of your mind…
Read MoreIf you find yourself making the same mistakes over and over again in your love life…it’s time to work on your love life. If you’re stuck feeling lonely all the time, feeling chronically disappointed, experiencing repetitive painful love relationships, or just a lot of lousy breakups…it’s time to work on your love life. If you’ve…
Read MoreI’ve recently heard predictions that many more people than usual will be getting married as the pandemic lessens and more people feel freer to resume a normalized life. I’m assuming these predictions are based on the fact that marriage rates decreased in 2020 and the beginning of 2021. Our human need for love and the…
Read MoreLearn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life Thomas Jordan, Ph.D. A sincere thanks to all my friends and colleagues who supported this writing project and passed this little book along to patients and people who used it as a guide to make real and lasting improvements in their love…
Read MoreWorking as a clinical psychologist and psychoanalyst throughout the past year, I’ve noticed a few things about this pandemic in my practice and beyond that have convinced me that many or most of us have been traumatized to one degree or another. Using the DSM as a reference, one reason post-trauma occurs is we are…
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