marriage
Every once and while I like to write about a love life problem that is a bit more on the messy side. Falling in love with your spouse’s sibling I think warrants that description. Let’s start here, falling for someone else when you’re already married or committed naturally forms a “triangle” in your love life.…
So you’ve married a person who doesn’t want children. Let’s talk about the less painful forms of this problem before discussing the harder ones. You married someone who is older than you and already has a child or two or three…She/he loves you but won’t commit to another child with you. Obviously the chances of…
Why do some couples try to solve their couple problems with “triangular” solutions? By triangle I mean, draw in another person, creating a 3 out of a 2. It usually happens because neither person in the couple, married or not, wants to put in the effort and emotional exposure required to “fix” their relationship, stay…
If you are considering a marriage to a woman who comes as a “package deal” with a “narcissistic mother” in tow, you need to read this post to understand what you are getting into. First let’s define what I mean by “narcissistic mother.” This is a “self-centered” parent, single or with a husband, who has…
You meet someone, fall in love, date, move in, (maybe even have a kid or two – optional), OK so when are you supposed to receive a proposal of marriage? More than a few women have showed up in my office depressed and angry about being in a love relationship with a man who keeps…
This is how I met my future father-in-law. My wife, then my girlfriend, had practically moved into my little apartment. Now it was time to meet the parents. Her parents were no longer married so I had to meet them separately. I’ll focus on her father in this particular post. Victoria arranged a visit. We…
According to a New York Times article (Sunday, May 24, 2015), “Infidelity Lurks in Your Genes.” You’ve got to be kidding, right? This is one of the newest efforts to explain what is going on in our love lives in purely physical terms. The problem is in your body. Or that old and tired argument…
OK…what type are you? Is there a marrying type? Is there a non-marrying type? Or is this a convenient way of disguising a fear of deeper love and intimacy? My gut tells me it’s the latter. There are plenty of people in the world who dread the idea of marriage. To them marriage is some…
Yesterday I sat with a very pregnant woman. In fact she is 7 months pregnant with twins. She told me a secret that pregnant women probably all know about but never tell (except to each other, maybe). She broke ranks and told me (a man!) about the ‘pregnant woman’s prerogative.’ Now if you’re a pregnant…