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“There is nothing better than a room full of people interested in love!” This is my opening line whenever I’m face to face with an audience of people interested in my presentation – “Disappointing Love Life and how to fix it.” The prospect of teaching a group of people how we learn to love and…
I created a highly effective psychological method of improving a disappointing love life. I call it the Love Life Consultation. A telehealth consultation that focuses exclusively on identifying and changing what was unconsciously learned about love relationships that is unhealthy. Telehealth is ideally suited for working on a love life given its convenience, reduced social…
As a clinical psychologist and psychological disability consultant in New York City over the past 36 years, I’ve learned that a disappointing love life is often the unacknowledged source of emotional illness and stress-related physical illness, resulting in diminished job performance and recurrent episodes of short-term disability. What is a disappointing love life? A love…
In this 21st century, truth is under attack. It is getting progressively harder and harder for us human beings to discern what is true from what is false. When we are no longer able to do so, our ability to live in relation to reality will have been sacrificed. Lies, pretense, and fabrication have become…
If you’re in a love relationship and you can’t stop cheating, the first step is to consider the idea that you have an emotional problem. Plainly put, you have an underlying problem with emotional intimacy. If you can accept that you have a love life problem, with enough self-dedication, you’ll be able to change…
Love takes three forms in adulthood: the love we give to another, the love we give to ourselves, and the love we get when love is given to us. Let’s talk about each one of these separately. First there is the love we give to another. This is basically a “self-less” love meant to build up…
Regarding the word “intimacy,” let’s separate the word from its commonly assumed sexual meaning and focus on its usage in the phrase “emotional intimacy.” What is emotional intimacy anyway? I am referring to the ability to form and sustain a healthy loving relationship. Let’s assume that when a person “falls in love,” the actual choice involved in…
Is it time to work on your love life? Odd question? We work on everything else: social life, work life, family life, financial life… We have a divorce rate that remains steady at somewhere around 50% and it gets higher for second and third marriages. Maybe we’ve gotten complacent and accept the inevitability of a…
If you’re done making the same old love life mistakes in your disappointing love life and it’s time to really work on your love life….the most important question you have to answer is: What kind of relationship do you form when you fall in love? Is it healthy? Unhealthy? Is the relationship you form when you…
Reader, before you read this article, I want you to know something about myself. I do not believe that being in an adult love relationship is required or necessary in order to be a happy and healthy human being. Being an individual and on one’s own, enjoying the freedom, is a lifestyle that many people…