love-life problems

My Lover Looks At Other People

By Dr. Jordan / October 29, 2012 /

Your lover looks at other attractive people when he or she is with you. The ‘looking’ might be subtle or more obvious to you and other people. Maybe you didn’t care at first. But now it’s starting to bother you. You’ve told yourself that looking is ‘freedom of vision.’ You’ve told yourself that it doesn’t…

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Your Absent Mother & Your Love-Life

By Dr. Jordan / October 21, 2012 /

To be sure, our mothers have a very powerful influence on our love-lives. Why? Ideally, they are the first to teach us about love. For the most part I’ll be talking about your ‘biological mother.’ That’s the mother who gave birth to you. Even though the role of mother has more to do with which…

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My Father Cheats On My Mother

By Dr. Jordan / October 19, 2012 /

Much of your love-life thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are learned. Your most important teachers are members of your own family of origin. You learn mostly by observing what members of your family experience in their love-lives. The good news is, if you’ve learned something about love that is complicating your love-life, you can unlearn it…

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My Suicidal Lover

By Dr. Jordan / October 15, 2012 /

First up, is the realization that threatening suicide to get what you want in a love relationship is fundamentally sickness. There is no way to rationally explain the need for this kind of behavior in love. Then why does it occur? Because it is an extreme way of securing ‘control’ over someone. Before discussing the…

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Don’t Stalk Your Lover’s X

By Dr. Jordan / October 14, 2012 /

This post is about a specific instance of love-life stalking. The urge to stalk that I’m talking about occurs when a person takes a lover who is suspected of still being interested in an ex-girlfriend or ex-wife. Before we get specific, let’s talk more generally about stalking. What is it and why do some people…

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My Lover Lies To Me

By Dr. Jordan / October 12, 2012 /

At this time of political uncertainty, most people would like to meet the ‘honest person.’ This is particularly true in our love-lives as well. True love doesn’t have a snowball’s chance in hell without honesty. Before we launch into a discussion of lying and your love-life, let’s take a little ‘Dishonesty 101’ course in preparation. Dishonesty,…

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Your Post Suggestion Box

By Dr. Jordan / October 12, 2012 /

Send us your suggestions for the love-life posts you would like to read on this blog by writing a comment in response to this post. We will do our best to write about the psychological issues involved. The great thing about our Post Suggestion Box is you get to tell us what you need to know.…

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My Baby’s Father Has Another Family

By Dr. Jordan / October 8, 2012 /

Here’s the scenario, the father of your baby, whom you thought was single, has another family. Now this is fundamentally different from a love-life situation where he doesn’t have another family. Why? Because if he doesn’t have another family, which means he’s single, there exists the possibility that he could come back (remote or not)…

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Do A ‘Love-Life Review’

By Dr. Jordan / September 22, 2012 /

If you want to increase the chances of finding and sustaining a healthy love relationship, I strongly recommend you review your love-life. I’m calling this exercise a Love-Life Review. By doing a Love-Life Review you’re acknowledging to yourself, first and foremost, that a healthy love relationship isn’t just about finding the right person, at the…

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When Love Life Problems Cause Illness

By Dr. Jordan / August 25, 2012 /

In my experience, the love life problems that cause the most illness are: 1. breakup of a love relationship resulting in separation and divorce, if married; 2. chronic feelings of loneliness when living alone; 3. chronic mistreatment or abuse in a love relationship; 4. death of a lover or spouse.  The most common forms of…

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