Month: December 2012
Love can only thrive if there is trust. If you’ve imposed limits on what can and cannot be known about you, a love relationship will be difficult to say the least. When two people are in love they are united. If privacy is important to maintain your ‘boundaries’ as a person, love will feel like…
Read MoreYou fell in love and your lover started asking for money. You’ve given money to him or her and he or she never pays you back. He or she keeps asking for more money. It feels like it has become a condition of your relationship. You start to worry, but you don’t say anything about…
Read MoreBeing alone is difficult enough, never mind being alone on the holidays. It’s important that you have a psychological ‘strategy’ in mind to cope with the experience. You don’t want to be wandering around during the holidays looking for something to do and feeling bad about yourself. Being around people you know will be useful…
Read MoreWhat is flirting? Flirting is playfully communicating attraction to someone. On the surface it looks like flirting is simply a playful interaction with someone you’re attracted to without the intention of taking it any further. The ‘further’ would be dating, intimacy, love, relationship, etc. Why do people flirt? Flirting communicates interest or desire. It communicates to…
Read MoreYou grieve because you loved. This is why your grief exists. Grief is love turned upside down. Grief is as natural as rain. It is made to come and go and decrease over time. Grief lingers only when we do not give grief the time it requires. If you welcome grief as a sign of love…
Read MoreYou fell in love and the holidays are here. But your lover is unavailable for the holidays. On the milder side of this problem, your lover can’t be around because he or she is working far away on the holidays. Maybe your lover is in the military and in another country. Or he or she is…
Read MoreYou might expect me to start talking about better things to wear, better places to go, and better people to meet. I know better than that. My research on love has taught me that you improve your love-life by improving yourself. You might not know what I’m talking about, so let me spell it out…
Read MoreLoving a married woman is dangerous for two reasons. The first reason I’ll mention briefly in this post and refer you for more details to an earlier post entitled, “I Love A Married Woman.” Danger #1: Simply put, the first danger involves the fact that your lover is married. Now you might like that state of…
Read MoreThe definition of a stalker is: a person who harasses or persecutes someone with unwanted and obsessive attention. Understandably, the emphasis in this definition is on the ‘victim’ of stalking. In this post, however, we will try to understand the stalker’s mind. There are two kinds of people who ‘stalk.’ There is the stalker who has…
Read MoreLike I said in Rules of Engagement I, you are a single person looking for a lover. You’re in a single situation with other single people who are socializing. There are eligible single people all around. You want to improve your ability to meet someone special. What are the rules of engagement? There are six…
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