love-life
Recently a man asked me, do you think it is possible for a relationship with a married woman to have a ‘happy ending?’ And if so, how can that be achieved? I want to spell out the steps that need to be taken for those of you who are struggling in love with a married woman.…
Let’s examine the notion that you’ll enjoy the smell and taste of someone you’re in love with more than someone you’re not in love with. Is this the smell and taste of chemical compatibility in love? The sense of smell and taste are a bit more primitive, or less cultured, if you don’t like the…
How sexually active you are is not just a matter of biology. It has a lot to do with how you were taught to relate to your own sexuality as well as what you believe about sex. In this post I will explore the psychology of both extremes, over-sexed and under-sexed, with the assumption being…
I also know what it’s like to be stuck in a repetitive pattern of dating the wrong people over and over again. I got out of my repetitive cycle by changing somethings about myself. In fact, I’m pretty convinced from personal and professional experience that making positive changes in yourself is always the best thing…
If your husband or lover is rough in bed, the first question you have to ask yourself is, do you like it? I’m not going to assume that your curiosity about this post title means you don’t. If you say you do then you have to admit to yourself that you’ve helped set up your…
Older women and younger men have been getting together for as long as there has been love in the world. The problem is not the age difference. The problem is the presence or absence of maturity. If an older woman is looking for a younger lover to be in control of, to ‘parent,’ this will…
Can love emerge for anyone? Or does it follow prototypes established while growing up? Both. How? Love is an uncontrollable and unpredictable phenomena of human emotion. Yet we learn how to shape the experiences of love that emerge with what we’ve learn about people in our families of origin and throughout our entire lives. For…
Everyone knows the breakup of a love relationship is painful. Even more painful when you’re the one that doesn’t want it to end. Some people get self-destructive after a breakup because they are in pain, and can’t or choose not to manage that pain in any other way. These are a few of the common…
When your heart gets broken by a lover who betrays your trust in some way, revenge is the worst thing you can do. Why? Because it basically means you’ve allowed what he or she has done to you to govern what you do for yourself and to him or her. This reaction keeps you firmly…
This post is part of a series dedicated to the resolution of critical love-life problems. The problem is you’re in an abusive relationship. You are being controlled and mistreated by your lover in some way and you are conscious of having an intermittent feeling of fear. At this point in time, the thought of leaving…