love-life

Our Need For Love

By Dr. Jordan / March 29, 2025 /

We come into this world needing love.  Love is essential to life and health. When newly born infants are deprived of love there are dire physical and emotional consequences. There are old studies that examined the dire consequences of being born and institutionalized without love. Sickness and behavioral disorder are a common aftereffect. Infant humans…

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I Can’t Stop Cheating

By Dr. Jordan / March 10, 2025 /

  If you’re in a love relationship and you can’t stop cheating, the first step is to consider the idea that you have an emotional problem. Plainly put, you have an underlying problem with emotional intimacy. If you can accept that you have a love life problem, with enough self-dedication, you’ll be able to change…

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Love in Adulthood

By Dr. Jordan / February 23, 2025 /

Love takes three forms in adulthood: the love we give to another, the love we give to ourselves, and the love we get when love is given to us. Let’s talk about each one of these separately. First there is the love we give to another. This is basically a “self-less” love meant to build up…

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Your Love Life Is In Your Mind

By Dr. Jordan / February 2, 2025 /

My love life research has taught me that our love lives are in our minds. What you’ve unconsciously learned about love relationships from the relationship experiences you’ve had in life is in control of your love life. As illustrated by the individual in the image pointing toward his own mind as he symbolically contemplates his…

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I Love A Married Man

By Dr. Jordan / October 30, 2024 /

This is my intro to both this post and its companion post, ‘Loving A Married Woman.’ If you love a married man and you’re in a love relationship with him, read this post. You are engaged in what is commonly thought of as a ‘triangle.’ Triangles are rough on the heart. Fundamentally, they are unstable,…

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I Love A Married Woman

By Dr. Jordan / October 30, 2024 /

If you love a married woman and you’re in a love relationship with her, read this post. You are engaged in what is commonly thought of as a ‘triangle.’ Triangles are rough on the heart. Fundamentally, they are unstable, like three legs on a table. Something always goes wrong, or at least it should, because…

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Clinical Depression and the Loss of Love

By Dr. Jordan / September 15, 2024 /

Most of us would agree that the emotion of love is an essential ingredient for healthy development. When love is absent or distorted in the context of unhealthy relationships, unhealthy personality and interpersonal consequences are for certain. The unfortunate reality is there are many parents raising children who have been exposed to unhealthy loving in…

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Is It Time To Work On Your Love Life?

By Dr. Jordan / August 8, 2024 /

Is it time to work on your love life? Odd question? We work on everything else: social life, work life, family life, financial life… We have a divorce rate that remains steady at somewhere around 50% and it gets higher for second and third marriages. Maybe we’ve gotten complacent and accept the inevitability of a…

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Do I Have An Unhealthy Love Life?

By Dr. Jordan / June 1, 2024 /

Reader, before you read this article, I want you to know something about myself. I do not believe that being in an adult love relationship is required or necessary in order to be a happy and healthy human being. Being an individual and on one’s own, enjoying the freedom, is a lifestyle that many people…

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Emotional Divorce Recovery

By Dr. Jordan / February 4, 2024 /

Recovering from the struggle to get out of an expired marriage takes places on several different levels. There is the financial recovery where both individuals work out an agreement, usually involving lawyers or mediators. Then there is the recovery that involves reshaping the relationships the divorcing individuals will have with children, relatives, and mutual friends…

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