love-life
As a clinical psychologist and psychological disability consultant in New York City over the past 36 years, I’ve learned that a disappointing love life is often the unacknowledged source of emotional illness and stress-related physical illness, resulting in diminished job performance and recurrent episodes of short-term disability. What is a disappointing love life? A love…
In this 21st century, truth is under attack. It is getting progressively harder and harder for us human beings to discern what is true from what is false. When we are no longer able to do so, our ability to live in relation to reality will have been sacrificed. Lies, pretense, and fabrication have become…
You’ve heard of the old research finding that married men live longer than single or divorced men. Of course, that statistic depends upon the quality of their marriages. Nevertheless, I’m going to add my own controversial prediction, drawn from years of clinical experience: if your love life is healthy, single or married, man or woman,…
If you love a married woman and you’re in a love relationship with her, read this post. You are engaged in what is commonly thought of as a ‘triangle.’ Triangles are rough on the heart. Fundamentally, they are unstable, like three legs on a table. Something always goes wrong, or at least it should, because…
Emotional intimacy is the healthiest form of human relationship. Interpersonal health and healing are significant in an emotionally intimate relationship. When an interpersonal relationship is not emotionally intimate it is driven by other motivations beyond love and closeness. Getting people to do things is a common source of interpersonal relationship especially when the objectives are…
It is obvious to most people that we have begun what some people refer to as the “AI Revolution.” A time in history when the machine, as a consequence of technological evolution, has become capable of accurately mimicking human beings. AI is able to interact with its user as though it is another human being.…
We come into this world needing love. Love is essential to life and health. When newly born infants are deprived of love there are dire physical and emotional consequences. There are old studies that examined the dire consequences of being born and institutionalized without love. Sickness and behavioral disorder are a common aftereffect. Infant humans…
If you’re in a love relationship and you can’t stop cheating, the first step is to consider the idea that you have an emotional problem. Plainly put, you have an underlying problem with emotional intimacy. If you can accept that you have a love life problem, with enough self-dedication, you’ll be able to change…
Love takes three forms in adulthood: the love we give to another, the love we give to ourselves, and the love we get when love is given to us. Let’s talk about each one of these separately. First there is the love we give to another. This is basically a “self-less” love meant to build up…
My love life research has taught me that our love lives are in our minds. What you’ve unconsciously learned about love relationships from the relationship experiences you’ve had in life is in control of your love life. As illustrated by the individual in the image pointing toward his own mind as he symbolically contemplates his…