love-life

Do I Have An Unhealthy Love Life?

By Dr. Jordan / August 31, 2023 /

Reader, before you read this article, I want you to know something about myself. I do not believe that being in an adult love relationship is required or necessary in order to be a happy and healthy human being. Being an individual and on one’s own, enjoying the freedom, is a lifestyle that many people…

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Unhealthy Love Life Experience and Mental Illness

By Dr. Jordan / August 5, 2023 /

Your love life started the day you were born. You start learning about love relationships in the relationships with family members usually beginning with your mother. That learning takes place unconsciously, meaning, you don’t know that you’re learning and you don’t know what you’re indeed learning. Nevertheless, what you’ve learned becomes the mental “blueprint” that…

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Am I Psychologically Prepared To Have a Healthy Love Relationship?

By Dr. Jordan / October 30, 2022 /

The idea that not everyone of age is psychologically ready to have a healthy love relationship is for some people unacceptable. It is common to think that just because you are an adult, you are ready to form a healthy love relationship. The alternative is that most of us should consider working on our love lives…

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How Do I Avoid Getting Divorced Again?

By Dr. Jordan / October 16, 2022 /

Divorces happen for emotional reasons. The hard part is, most people don’t really know their own personal emotional reasons for divorce. Of course, if you ask someone why they’ve divorced, they will probably describe a series of hurtful experiences and say that the unresolvable nature of what was hurtful lead to the breakup. Makes sense,…

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You’ve “Fallen in Love.” What Happens Next?

By Dr. Jordan / August 22, 2022 /

You’ve fallen in Love, that mysterious emotion we humans are unable to predict or control. My description of the emotion with the little “in” before the word Love would be: a cross between acute excitement, emotional and physical needs you didn’t know you had, mild to moderate upset some call “butterflies,” a dose of anxiety…

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Love The One You’re With? Polyamorous Love Life

By Dr. Jordan / August 12, 2022 /

There are essentially two ways that “being in love” with more than one person or what is currently called a “polyamorous” love life can occur in a person’s love life. The first I refer to as  “substituting love partners” and the second way is by setting up a love life where you love more than…

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Why Is It So Hard To Change Our Love Lives?

By Dr. Jordan / July 31, 2022 /

Why is it so hard to change our love lives? I’ve known so many people who have made the same mistakes over and over again in their love relationships, as if they were committed to doing what will (and does) inevitably ruin their love lives. Whatever we believe about love relationships, do in a love…

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Know When To Work On Your Love Life

By Dr. Jordan / August 13, 2021 /

If you find yourself making the same mistakes over and over again in your love life…it’s time to work on your love life. If you’re stuck feeling lonely all the time, feeling chronically disappointed, experiencing repetitive painful love relationships, or just a lot of lousy breakups…it’s time to work on your love life. If you’ve…

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Preparing For Your Post-Pandemic Love Life

By Dr. Jordan / July 16, 2021 /

I’ve recently heard predictions that many more people than usual will be getting married as the pandemic lessens and more people feel freer to resume a normalized life. I’m assuming these predictions are based on the fact that marriage rates decreased in 2020 and the beginning of 2021. Our human need for love and the…

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Avoiding Sexual Harassment

By Dr. Jordan / February 28, 2021 /

The question I’m hearing now that our sensitivity to gender inequality has grown is: How do I approach a person I am interested in without crossing the line into sexual harassment? Harassment meaning: one person is aggressively pursuing something another person is unable or unwilling to provide permission for. First and foremost is the importance…

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