love-life
A love-life ‘confrontation,’ as I wish to use the word in this post, involves getting in your lover’s face and letting him or her know in a direct way that you don’t like something he or she is doing. Most of the time a confrontation is needed because: 1. what he or she is doing…
In my experience, the love life problems that cause the most illness are: 1. breakup of a love relationship resulting in separation and divorce, if married; 2. chronic feelings of loneliness when living alone; 3. chronic mistreatment or abuse in a love relationship; 4. death of a lover or spouse. The most common forms of…
Let’s talk about awkwardness. First there’s awkwardness the a human experience that can happen to anybody under the right social conditions. Then there’s awkwardness that occurs frequently enough to be considered a personality trait. But what is awkwardness? Awkwardness occurs when your concern about another person’s opinions, judgments, or feelings outweighs your ability to confidently…
Here’s a love-life problem that can be painful. A couple get married and at some point, perhaps after a couple of kids, the wife finds out her husband is gay. I have treated a person or two with this love-life problem over the years. Treatment essentially helps the wife grieve the loss of the relationship,…
This post is one of a series that will show you how to start fixing a particular love-life problem. The love-life problem we’ll focus on is the feeling of being emotionally unprepared for love in your life. The limiting belief that is usually causing this feeling of not being prepared for love goes something like this:…
Here’s the situation: you’re the daughter or son of a mother whose marriage to your father has ended (separation or divorce). She has now begun dating another man. You hate him. In this post I will offer some ideas you can use to begin understanding your feelings and perhaps doing something about them. Hate is…
We all start out in this life looking for love. That’s a fact. But for some people, disappointment is unfortunately what they find. Eventually some give up on love. Love proves to be too difficult to find or too hurtful when it’s found. Or even worse, love doesn’t hang around for very long after it’s…
This post is one of a series that focuses on the things you can do to begin working on a particular love-life problem. The problem we are focusing on is your difficulty making a commitment to a love relationship. The basic problem that complicates making a love commitment is the fear of being controlled or…
This post is one of a series that will show you how to start fixing a particular love-life problem. The love-life problem we’ll focus on is your difficulty finding a lover. Having difficulty finding a lover indicates that you’ve been out there looking around for one. Congratulations, looking for love is always a noble activity. Chances…
Have you ever thought of why most people close their eyes when they are kissing? I think it has something to do with going inside during the act of kissing to feel more intensely whatever you are feeling while kissing. When your eyes are closed you get to be inside yourself in a more pronounced…