feelings
You’ve fallen in Love, that mysterious emotion we humans are unable to predict or control. My description of the emotion with the little “in” before the word Love would be: a cross between acute excitement, emotional and physical needs you didn’t know you had, mild to moderate upset some call “butterflies,” a dose of anxiety…
Read MoreRemember the phrase, “we are at our best when we are at our worst.” I believe our best is the love that is possible between people. Our worst is the sickness, death, and grief that occurs when we are living through a global pandemic. So what does this really mean? Why aren’t we at our…
Read MoreYou’ll know you’re in ‘true love’ if hurting the person you love hurts you as well. If this happens to you, you are sympathetically connected with another person. Now this might be a little scary to some of you, you know, the prospect of being connected like this. It will be particularly difficult for those of…
Read MoreIf you believe anger has a prominent place in every love relationship, you probably envision a relationship as a an arrangement between two people that can tolerate a heated exchange of angry feelings. For some people, this would be the true test of love. Ideally, you’d have two people facing off cooperatively engaged in an alternating blast of…
Read MoreA patient told me the other day that she was at a party and a lot of the party goers were asking each other whether or not they had any Xanex. Apparently this is the new fad party drug. For those of you that don’t know what this is, I’ll fill you in. Xanex is…
Read MoreAllow me to dispel any misunderstandings right away, men have feelings, and lots of them. Everybody’s born with them. It’s what we learn to do with them that makes the difference. In this culture men are taught to put some of them away, especially the softer ones. Anger and aggressiveness are OK within certain limits.…
Read MoreIn your love-life you can’t work with anger or its extreme form rage. Anger is often a defense against the hurt, fear, or vulnerability you can feel in a love relationship. When angry you are not open to reflecting on yourself or working on a relationship. You are simply interested in self-protection and in some…
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