I Can’t Stop Cheating

By Dr. Jordan / May 3, 2020 /

  If you’re in a love relationship and you can’t stop cheating, the first step is to consider is the idea that you have an emotional problem. Plainly stated, you have a problem with intimacy. If you can accept that, you get to go on, and with enough self-dedication change your “psychological love life.” That’s…

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I Love A Married Woman

By Dr. Jordan / December 18, 2019 /

If you love a married woman and you’re in a love relationship with her, read this post. You are engaged in what is commonly thought of as a ‘triangle.’ Triangles are rough on the heart. Fundamentally, they are unstable, like three legs on a table. Something always goes wrong, or at least it should, because…

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How Do I Forgive Someone for Cheating?

By Dr. Jordan / April 15, 2018 /

Not easily. The first thing a “victim” of this behavior needs to consider is whether or not the cheating is a “pattern.” Pattern meaning, something that has reoccurred over and over again in the relationship or whether cheating has occurred in previous relationships of the cheater. If there is a pattern, the cheater’s behavior will be…

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Infidelity In Your Genes? Give me a break!

By Dr. Jordan / May 27, 2015 /

According to a New York Times article (Sunday, May 24, 2015), “Infidelity Lurks in Your Genes.” You’ve got to be kidding, right? This is one of the newest efforts to explain what is going on in our love lives in purely physical terms. The problem is in your body. Or that old and tired argument…

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What is a 80/20 relationship?

By Dr. Jordan / March 27, 2014 /

Somebody coined the idea of a “80/20” relationship. What does it mean? It means that a person in a couple is available 80% in the relationship while keeping someone else on the side for a 20% relationship. In other words, 80/20 describes what usually happens when there is cheating or infidelity in a committed relationship.…

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“I’m Not Married My Wife’s Married”

By Dr. Jordan / May 18, 2013 /

A single eligible woman said to a married man who was ‘hitting on her’ at a party, “Aren’t you married?” The married man responded with “I’m not married my wife’s married.” This bit of semi-humorous ‘cheat speak’ is a justification of cheating based on the belief that different commitment rules apply to men and women. For this guy,…

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Can I Ever Trust Again After His/Her Cheating?

By Dr. Jordan / April 11, 2013 /

Someone sent me a question recently asking if he should allow his girlfriend to ‘talk to’ a man she had recently cheated with. She had apparently got caught and then asked for forgiveness from her boyfriend to remain in the relationship. I thought the question highlighted a particularly difficult situation and worth a post. I…

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Love Triangle…Love Quadrangle?

By Dr. Jordan / February 26, 2013 /

Ready for a little ‘love geometry’ lesson? You’ve heard of a ‘love triangle,’ right? That’s when A is married to B and B has an affair with C. You’ve got a triangle. A is connected to B connected to C. OK. Let’s add another person to make this a quadrangle (square). A is married to…

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‘Cheating’ For Other Reasons Besides Sex

By Dr. Jordan / January 6, 2013 /

Here’s the situation, you’re in a committed relationship or marriage. After a few years you start to feel dissatisfied and unhappy. You start to feel like there is ‘something missing’ in your love-life. Sex is OK, if not predictable. You still ‘love’ your partner/spouse but something’s wrong. You start to realize that you and your…

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Sneaking Around With A Married Woman

By Dr. Jordan / December 14, 2012 /

Loving a married woman is dangerous for two reasons. The first reason I’ll mention briefly in this post and refer you for more details to an earlier post entitled, “I Love A Married Woman.” Danger #1: Simply put, the first danger involves the fact that your lover is married. Now you might like that state of…

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