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Talk About Being Sexually Harassed

By Dr. Jordan / January 16, 2018 /

The problem with traumatic experiences is we are “vulnerable” when they occur and we tend to hide them to “protect” ourselves. This simple reaction is understandable but interferes with the healing and resolution that needs to take place. Unresolved traumatic experiences can and will remain in the background of our ongoing experience negatively effecting what…

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Love, Trance & Exploitation

By Dr. Jordan / July 13, 2015 /

Unfortunately there are too many people out there who are looking to take advantage of those of us who are ready and willing to “fall in love,” broadly speaking. These individuals have given up on love and are basically interested in whatever opportunities they can find to “exploit” starry eyed lovers. What does it take…

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Are You Being ‘Guilted’ By Someone You Love?

By Dr. Jordan / May 15, 2013 /

Are you being ‘guilted’ by someone you love? This occurs when the person you love leverages your experience and/or actions with guilt. “If you don’t give me what I need, my life will fall apart!” “Please don’t leave, I’m nothing without you.” “If you see your friends tonight it will hurt my feelings.” The act…

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Are You Being Bullied?

By Dr. Jordan / April 24, 2013 /

What is a bully? Someone who gets his or her own way by being threatening and scary. In a love relationship it’s a person who tries to control his or partner with verbal or emotional abuse. If you have the misfortune of being in love with one you should be aware of a few facts…

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Do You Need An Order Of Protection?

By Dr. Jordan / April 3, 2013 /

IF SOMEONE IS MAKING YOU FEEL SCARED OR UNSAFE, you may be able to get an Order of Protection or ‘OP’ (also called a ‘restraining order’) from a New York State Family Court, Criminal Court or both. The Supreme Court can also issue an OP if you are getting a divorce. WHAT IS AN ORDER OF…

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Leaving An Abusive Relationship

By Dr. Jordan / March 17, 2013 /

This post is about breaking up with someone who is being abusive. In a previous post, Am I Being Abused In My Love-Life, we learned that there are several types of relationship abuse: verbal, emotional, physical, sexual, and financial. If you decide to leave a relationship when one or more of these abuses are occurring, it’s important to…

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Are You An Abused Man?

By Dr. Jordan / March 13, 2013 /

Whether you are a man or a woman, you can be the victim of abuse in a relationship. Even though victims of abuse usually hide what is happening to them for a time, men tend to have even more reason to hide abuse beyond the usual shame a victim will feel. Why? Because men often…

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Are You Being Blamed?

By Dr. Jordan / March 7, 2013 /

What is blame and how does it figure into your love life? The standard definition for blame is to assign responsibility for a fault or a wrong to someone. For most people blame also has a little bit of a negative feeling in it too. When you blame someone you are not doing something nice…

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Am I Being Abused In My Love-Life?

By Dr. Jordan / February 9, 2013 /

This post is meant to be a ‘quick reference’ or ‘crash course’ for anyone who thinks he or she is being abused while dating, in a love relationship or marriage. Once you’ve identified that you are being abused in one of the ways depicted in this post, the cure is always to ‘STOP THE ABUSE’…

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My Suicidal Lover

By Dr. Jordan / October 15, 2012 /

First up, is the realization that threatening suicide to get what you want in a love relationship is fundamentally sickness. There is no way to rationally explain the need for this kind of behavior in love. Then why does it occur? Because it is an extreme way of securing ‘control’ over someone. Before discussing the…

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