Abuse
Are you being emotionally abused in a love relationship? Read this post if you suspect you are. There are a few important things to know in order to be able to identify this type of abuse. Emotional abuse is often a bit more difficult to identify than physical abuse, the form of abuse many people…
Read MoreUnfortunately, too many people are being “abused” in one way or another in love relationships. My purpose in writing this article is to give you a simple and effective understanding you can use to determine if you are one of them and what to do about it. First and foremost, let’s admit that there is…
Read MoreThe problem with traumatic experiences is we are “vulnerable” when they occur and we tend to hide them to “protect” ourselves. This simple reaction is understandable but interferes with the healing and resolution that needs to take place. Unresolved traumatic experiences can and will remain in the background of our ongoing experience negatively effecting what…
Read MoreUnfortunately there are too many people out there who are looking to take advantage of those of us who are ready and willing to “fall in love,” broadly speaking. These individuals have given up on love and are basically interested in whatever opportunities they can find to “exploit” starry eyed lovers. What does it take…
Read MoreAre you being ‘guilted’ by someone you love? This occurs when the person you love leverages your experience and/or actions with guilt. “If you don’t give me what I need, my life will fall apart!” “Please don’t leave, I’m nothing without you.” “If you see your friends tonight it will hurt my feelings.” The act…
Read MoreWhat is a bully? Someone who gets his or her own way by being threatening and scary. In a love relationship it’s a person who tries to control his or partner with verbal or emotional abuse. If you have the misfortune of being in love with one you should be aware of a few facts…
Read MoreIF SOMEONE IS MAKING YOU FEEL SCARED OR UNSAFE, you may be able to get an Order of Protection or ‘OP’ (also called a ‘restraining order’) from a New York State Family Court, Criminal Court or both. The Supreme Court can also issue an OP if you are getting a divorce. WHAT IS AN ORDER OF…
Read MoreThis post is about breaking up with someone who is being abusive. In a previous post, Am I Being Abused In My Love-Life, we learned that there are several types of relationship abuse: verbal, emotional, physical, sexual, and financial. If you decide to leave a relationship when one or more of these abuses are occurring, it’s important to…
Read MoreWhether you are a man or a woman, you can be the victim of abuse in a relationship. Even though victims of abuse usually hide what is happening to them for a time, men tend to have even more reason to hide abuse beyond the usual shame a victim will feel. Why? Because men often…
Read MoreWhat is blame and how does it figure into your love life? The standard definition for blame is to assign responsibility for a fault or a wrong to someone. For most people blame also has a little bit of a negative feeling in it too. When you blame someone you are not doing something nice…
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