Am I Being Abused In My Love-Life?

By Dr. Jordan / February 9, 2013 /

This post is meant to be a ‘quick reference’ or ‘crash course’ for anyone who thinks he or she is being abused while dating, in a love relationship or marriage. Once you’ve identified that you are being abused in one of the ways depicted in this post, the cure is always to ‘STOP THE ABUSE’…

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My Suicidal Lover

By Dr. Jordan / October 15, 2012 /

First up, is the realization that threatening suicide to get what you want in a love relationship is fundamentally sickness. There is no way to rationally explain the need for this kind of behavior in love. Then why does it occur? Because it is an extreme way of securing ‘control’ over someone. Before discussing the…

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My Lover Lies To Me

By Dr. Jordan / October 12, 2012 /

At this time of political uncertainty, most people would like to meet the ‘honest person.’ This is particularly true in our love-lives as well. True love doesn’t have a snowball’s chance in hell without honesty. Before we launch into a discussion of lying and your love-life, let’s take a little ‘Dishonesty 101’ course in preparation. Dishonesty,…

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Identifying Unhealthy Love Relationships

By Dr. Jordan / June 18, 2012 /

What are the signs and symptoms that tell you your love relationship is unhealthy? The categories I’ve selected obviously overlap. But for the purpose of a simplified illustration, I’ve separated the signs and symptoms of unhealthy love relationships into three basic categories. A love relationship is unhealthy when one or both persons in the relationship…

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Lover Moved In & Won’t Move Out

By Dr. Jordan / June 8, 2012 /

This is what I like to call a ‘love-life home invasion.’ Your boyfriend or girlfriend moved in. Now you want him or her to move out, but he or she refuses to leave. The most common way this kind of thing happens in your love-life is, you ‘jump the gun’ and let your lover move into…

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Standing Up For Yourself In Love

By Dr. Jordan / June 4, 2012 /

You don’t need a set of brass balls to set a limit on someone you love. Just a clear understanding that if you let him or her take advantage of you, your love relationship will be damaged by your avoidance or neglect. Standing up for yourself is an essential part of any relationship and even…

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My Child Safe With My New Lover?

By Dr. Jordan / May 23, 2012 /

This post is for women who experienced some form of trauma earlier in their lives (emotional, sexual, physical trauma, or some combination) who now have a child and fear bringing a new man into their child’s life. You don’t want anything to happen to your child. You may have avoided dealing with this issue by…

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Mind of the Abusive Lover

By Dr. Jordan / April 15, 2012 /

Most people when they hear about a love relationship that has become abusive feel concern for and protective of the victim. This makes sense. However in this essay I’m going to ask you to take some of that concern and protectiveness and apply it to the abuser. Let’s talk about the abusing person as someone…

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