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I Married A Person Who Doesn’t Want Children

By Dr. Jordan / September 17, 2017 / 1 Comment

So you’ve married a person who doesn’t want children. Let’s talk about the less painful forms of this problem before discussing the harder ones. You married someone who is older than you and already has a child or two or three…She/he loves you but won’t commit to another child with you. Obviously the chances of…

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Professional Person’s Love Life Struggles

By Dr. Jordan / August 15, 2017 / 0 Comments

A “profession” is different than a job. A job is something you do. A profession is something you are. Professions take dedication and you will probably have to train and wait for it. All of this takes place during adulthood and it is common for professional development to compete with and in many cases interfere…

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“Triangle Cures” For Couples?

By Dr. Jordan / May 26, 2017 / 0 Comments

Why do some couples try to solve their couple problems with “triangular” solutions? By triangle I mean, draw in another person, creating a 3 out of a 2. It usually happens because neither person in the couple, married or not, wants to put in the effort and emotional exposure required to “fix” their relationship, stay…

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Just Sex or Love Relationship?

By Dr. Jordan / April 29, 2017 / 0 Comments

If you’re dating, this is the very first question to answer. Unfortunately, assumptions can be made on very little information. The most common assumption derived from hope is: he or she is here for a relationship. Sorry, that might not be the case. If you are dating for sex, this article will be of little…

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Honesty & Your Ability To Love & Be Loved

By Dr. Jordan / January 22, 2017 / 0 Comments

In this age of “falsification” and “alternate facts,” the “Truth” remains as a characteristic of being human that is intrinsic to our natures, especially our ability to love and be loved. When truth is denied, people fall victim to deception and lies that weaken our ability to live and love. There are people in the…

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My Sick Mother & My Love Life

By Dr. Jordan / October 28, 2016 / 0 Comments

What happens to your love life if you’re unfortunate enough to be brought up by a sick mother? If you’re not conscious of what you’ve “learned” about love relationships from her…plenty. The two most prominent effects are: 1. You’ll become a “care-giver” when you’re in a love relationship, and; 2. You’ll “keep your love partners…

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What Did Your Family Teach You About Love?

By Dr. Jordan / July 8, 2016 / 1 Comment

What did your family teach you about love? Weird question? I don’t think so. Your family of origin, that classroom you spend your childhood in, taught you all kinds of things about life. In this case, I’m particularly interested in what they’ve taught you about your “love life.” Here’s the problem, chances are pretty good…

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Improving the Health of Your Love Life

By Dr. Jordan / May 18, 2016 / 0 Comments

Free Educational Presentations in Manhattan: “Change What You’ve Learned About Love Relationships and Improve Your Love Life”       Dr. Thomas Jordan & Victoria Jordan LCSW We have been clinically researching repetitive love life problems and unhealthy love lives for more than 20 years. In addition to our Healthy Love Life Workshops and Love Life…

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Stay With Someone You Don’t Love?

By Dr. Jordan / February 26, 2016 / 2 Comments

The question is, should you stay with someone you don’t love for other reasons besides love? How about money? You get together with someone who has more money than you do. Maybe you marry. You get used to the lifestyle, you like the extras, the wealth. But deep down inside, after the glamour has worn…

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My Wife’s Narcissistic Mother

By Dr. Jordan / February 14, 2016 / 7 Comments

If you are considering a marriage to a woman who comes as a “package deal” with a “narcissistic mother” in tow, you need to read this post to understand what you are getting into. First let’s define what I mean by “narcissistic mother.” This is a “self-centered” parent, single or with a husband, who has…

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