Month: July 2012
Have you ever thought of why most people close their eyes when they are kissing? I think it has something to do with going inside during the act of kissing to feel more intensely whatever you are feeling while kissing. When your eyes are closed you get to be inside yourself in a more pronounced…
Read MorePregnancy is a lousy time for love-life problems. Period. Ideally, pregnancy should be a happy occasion for both parents. Especially when both parents are excited about having a baby. When this is the case, the connection between them is drawn closer by the pregnancy. Pregnancy should be a special time with fond memories of it…
Read MorePardon the photo, but I had to find something that made the point of this post. And don’t get carried away by the gender implication, the ideas apply to both genders. Someone told me that a contemporary dating rule out there in the single world reads ‘no sex for 90 days’ when you start dating…
Read MoreThis post is about living in the world with your ‘X-husband’ or ‘X-wife’ after your divorce. Ideally, the end of your marriage is final and you don’t have to deal with your ‘X’ any more. You can move on to a new life and eventually a new love, right? Well, unfortunately it’s a little more…
Read MoreThere has always been a double standard as far as being single in middle-age goes. Men always had an easier time of it. In the old days, a single woman in middle-age was known as an ‘old maid’ or a ‘spinster.’ The idea of consciously choosing to live as a single woman was not really…
Read MoreHere’s the situation, you were married, now you’re separated. Problem is, you’ve been separated for a while, a long while, maybe several years or even many years. Why would two people stay technically married but separated for so long? These are some of the superficial reasons people tell me. It cost too much to divorce. OK,…
Read MoreThe idea is to be yourself when you fall in love, right? Or should I say, the idea is to stay yourself when you fall in love? I think one of the biggest love-life problems is that people change who they are when they make a commitment to love. Before the commitment many couples have more fun and enjoy…
Read MoreThe ‘double standard’ essentially refers to the fact there is still a significant inequality between men and women in areas where there shouldn’t be. It simply means men and women are still on occasion judged by a separate and different sent of standards. One standard for men, and one standard for women. The usual critique…
Read MoreLoving someone who doesn’t love you has got to be one of the most disappointing love-life problems out there. The only way it would be worse is if you and the person you love were together for a while and then he or she fell out of love with you. In either case, you want…
Read MoreYears ago, the single man who chose to remain single as an adult was considered by many to be a a novelty but by no means an anomaly. He was a ‘playboy’ or ‘bachelor’ and envied by some who fantasized about multiple sexual encounters and self-determination. This single man was protected by a double standard…
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