Prostituted Love-Life

Sex is fundamentally a biological function. The meaning it is given by people is the result of beliefs about sex, interpretations we’ve learned to apply to it. There are many different forms of interpretation possible for a sexual experience. Our institutions and families of origin teach us to think about sex in certain ways. They teach us what is acceptable and what isn’t.

I believe that sex as a natural function should be thought about and practiced in ways that enrich the life of the individual person. I believe that there are healthy and unhealthy ways of having a sexual experience. So my personal and professional beliefs about sex are obviously influenced by my interest in emotional and physical health.

Some people believe that sex is a tool, to be used to procure something else that they want from people (a simple form of prostitution). The simple formula in this belief is, ‘I give this to you and you give that to me.’ The assumption here is that sex is a valued commodity that can be traded for other valued commodities. It’s basically a negotiation, a barter between two people. The most common barter involving sex occurs when it is used to obtain love. I give you sex and you’ll give me love, or more accurately, if you want me sexually you’ll have to learn to love me by committing to love me.

Since sex is a great motivator for many people, this ‘arrangement’ can be hard to resist. For a person in ‘heat,’ sex is difficult to resist when the conditions are right. Sex in this arrangement would involve more than a simple pleasure or a mutual effort to procreate. But you’d have to ask yourself, is the love received real or false? Most of what I know about love tells me that love cannot be forced. That you can’t make someone love you. It is either there to be given or there to be received. If it isn’t, it isn’t. You can’t manufacture it in order to fill an order, make a repayment, or satisfy a contract.

Other related barters with sex involve procuring security or using sex to gain control over someone. When sexual influence takes control, the ability to reason is the first thing to go. A person who has learned to use sex in this way can become powerful in certain interpersonal settings. Sexy people often get what they want before others, if they know how to use sexual influence to get what they want. And it’s not so easy for the sexual manipulator either. Once addicted to this way of life, he or she starts to lose respect for people. He or she begins to believe that most people can be ‘demented’ by sexual influence.

The disadvantage or loss for the sexual manipulator is that he or she losses touch with the part of themselves they want other people to recognize and love. They become absorbed in the power sexual influence has given them over others. Behind all that disrespect for mindless responders to sexual influence is the wish that the sexual manipulator would meet a desirable person who cannot be influenced by sex. When they find one, the great hope is that beyond the controlling influence of sex, there is love to be received that was not and cannot be manipulated.  Dr. T. Jordan

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The Love Life Learning Center online is a psycho-educational website/blog offering love life related psycho-educational materials and activities including free website/blog content, and audio downloads/podcasts and tele-seminars for sale, to individual users with a broad range of love life problems. Users are English-speaking adult men and women twenty-one (21) years of age and older.

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The Love Life Learning Center is a psycho-educational website/blog focused exclusively upon educating adult men and women about the psychology of love-life issues and problems. Our Love Life Learning Center’s psycho-educational materials and website/blog activities are not psychotherapy, counseling, or a mental health treatment or therapy of any kind, nor should a Love Life Learning Center’s psycho-educational materials or website/blog activities be used as a substitute for psychotherapy or other appropriate and necessary mental health treatments and services.

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The Love Life Learning Center is a privately owned and operated online psycho-educational service and has no relationship to or connection with any offline agencies bearing the same name or a similar name that provide services to individuals with love-life problems or other topics related to or unrelated to love life issues, themes, or problems.
The Love Life Learning Center is a psycho-educational service exclusively for adult men and women who are 21 years old and older. This service is not intended for children, adolescents, and young adults under the age of twenty-one (21), with or without parental consent.

The Love Life Learning Center is a psycho-educational service with an exclusive focus on love-life problems, solutions, and general love-life learning issues. The Love Life Learning Center is not an adult oriented website for the purpose of fostering adult oriented sexual activities, sexual fantasies, or other related adult-oriented entertainment.

The Love Life Learning Center is not a dating or introductory service for men and women seeking dating, meeting, and/or networking experiences.

The Love Life Learning Center is not for the procurement of online cyber-sexual contact or as a prelude to offline sexual contact or relations.

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The Love Life Learning Center website/blog is owned and operated by T. M. Jordan, Ph.D., Psychologist, P.C. a New York State based corporation. The views espoused in the psycho-educational free text and audio downloads/podcasts available at the Love Life Learning Center website/blog solely reflect the views of its owners and operators. Individual users participating in any and all of the Love Life Learning Center’s website/blog activities are solely and exclusively responsible for their own written and/or verbally expressed love-life and/or not love life related viewpoints.

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