relationships
What does it take to have a ‘long-distance’ relationship that works? For those of you who are thinking of having one or are already in one now, this post will outline a few ideas that could help you make it work. Remember, love is a ‘uniting force’ in us. This is why when you are…
Read MoreScientists remind us that there are compelling genetic reasons why incest leading to pregnancy must be avoided, and the legal system has determined that childhood incest is a crime. Our focus in this post will be on the emotional reasons why childhood incest must be avoided. What does incest do to the mind of the victim? What…
Read MoreOne of the things your parent’s divorce can do to you is complicate your love-life. How? Basically in one of three ways. The most extreme (most toxic) influence is to make you mistrust marriage. The reasoning goes something like this: if marriage didn’t work for them, it’s not going to work for me. If you feel…
Read MoreIf you feel like you could ‘lose yourself’ in a love relationship, this love-life problem could deter you from starting and/or staying in a love relationship. Let’s figure out what ‘losing yourself’ in love really means. When two people are in love, there are always three (3) things going on at the same time: your individuality,…
Read MoreHow sexually active you are is not just a matter of biology. It has a lot to do with how you were taught to relate to your own sexuality as well as what you believe about sex. In this post I will explore the psychology of both extremes, over-sexed and under-sexed, with the assumption being…
Read MoreTo be sure, our mothers have a very powerful influence on our love-lives. Why? Ideally, they are the first to teach us about love. For the most part I’ll be talking about your ‘biological mother.’ That’s the mother who gave birth to you. Even though the role of mother has more to do with which…
Read MoreI also know what it’s like to be stuck in a repetitive pattern of dating the wrong people over and over again. I got out of my repetitive cycle by changing somethings about myself. In fact, I’m pretty convinced from personal and professional experience that making positive changes in yourself is always the best thing…
Read MoreFor some older men, younger women are the coveted ‘fountain of youth.’ Especially for a man who has reason to try to avoid the ‘work’ required to maintain a growing together, fixing problems, learning how to communicate to each other relationship. Some men think that finding a younger woman will remedy all that and be…
Read MoreHere’s the scenario, the father of your baby, whom you thought was single, has another family. Now this is fundamentally different from a love-life situation where he doesn’t have another family. Why? Because if he doesn’t have another family, which means he’s single, there exists the possibility that he could come back (remote or not)…
Read MoreIf your husband or lover is rough in bed, the first question you have to ask yourself is, do you like it? I’m not going to assume that your curiosity about this post title means you don’t. If you say you do then you have to admit to yourself that you’ve helped set up your…
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