relationships

Is Selfless Love Realistic?

By Dr. Jordan / February 23, 2013 /

For centuries, philosophers have told us that ‘self-less’ love is the ideal love. Self-less meaning, you love another without any self-interst. If you’re interested in having love in your life and you adopt self-less loving as your goal, you’ll never really get there. It’s as unrealistic and lopsided as a life of total self-interest. Self-less…

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For Women Only

By Dr. Jordan / February 22, 2013 /

It’s time to share a little love-life secret with all my female readers (and I’m going to assume a lot of you already know this).  My old friend Ben, whom I believe understood love better than most, used to say to me, in this world women ‘sensitize’ men in a love relationship. To ‘sensitize’ means,…

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Until Death Do Us Part

By Dr. Jordan / February 15, 2013 /

Given our contemporary fascination with ‘dead that moves,’ like walking death, warm corpses, and an assortment of living zombies, I thought it only fitting to write about ‘dead love.’ Paying close attention to the title of this post, you’ll recognize the phrase as an excerpt from traditional marriage vows. The literal meaning is, you’re making…

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Obsessing About A Lover’s Past Lovers

By Dr. Jordan / February 9, 2013 /

Are you obsessed with how many people someone you love has slept with? Why? What kind of information does this provide? Let’s talk about some of the more common questions this kind of information is meant to answer. Does it tell you how experienced your lover is sexually? This one’s easy. If your lover has had…

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Am I Being Abused In My Love-Life?

By Dr. Jordan / February 9, 2013 /

This post is meant to be a ‘quick reference’ or ‘crash course’ for anyone who thinks he or she is being abused while dating, in a love relationship or marriage. Once you’ve identified that you are being abused in one of the ways depicted in this post, the cure is always to ‘STOP THE ABUSE’…

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Our Philosophy In A ‘Nut Shell’

By Dr. Jordan / February 6, 2013 /

Here at the Love-Life Learning Center (LLLC), we believe in the existence of a Love-Life Science. What this means is, there are a number of ‘invariant love-life principles’ or things that don’t change about love. These principles keep coming up in whatever love-life situation exists. We’ve discovered if you understand and use these love-life principles…

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How Many Times Do I Have To Say No!

By Dr. Jordan / January 30, 2013 /

This post is about the ‘obsessive pursuer’ or what is commonly know as the ‘pest.’ Basically, the man or woman who keeps on trying to go out with you even after you’ve said no to him or her over and over again. On the surface of things, pests are working with the expectation that ‘persistence’ will…

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Children of Divorce: Parent’s Guide

By Dr. Jordan / January 27, 2013 /

When parents divorce they too often get so absorbed in the conflict, feelings, and tasks required to get through this difficult experience, they forget about their children’s emotional reaction to the breakup of the family. Don’t forget, your kids are going through the divorce as well. How? These are five (5) major issues to pay…

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Why Won’t You Change?

By Dr. Jordan / January 23, 2013 /

Here’s the problem. You’re in a love relationship. You’re pretty satisfied except for a couple of things about your partner. You would like him or her to change. You’ve tried talking about it on a couple of occasions. He or she got defensive. Nothing changed. Your love for him or her would be so much…

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I’m Social And You’re Not

By Dr. Jordan / January 19, 2013 /

One of the most troublesome incompatibilities that can exist in a love relationship occurs when one person is ‘social’ and the other is not. This means one person needs and seeks the company of other people, while with his or her partner, and when not together. This social need might be met by hanging around…

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