The ‘One Night Stand’

By Dr. Jordan / June 16, 2013 /

What is a ‘one night stand’ and is it good for your love life? The most common definition of a ‘one night stand’ is sex without really knowing one’s sexual partner. The one night stand can occur with someone completely unknown in a first time encounter, or with someone who has been met previously but…

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‘Cheating’ For Other Reasons Besides Sex

By Dr. Jordan / January 6, 2013 /

Here’s the situation, you’re in a committed relationship or marriage. After a few years you start to feel dissatisfied and unhappy. You start to feel like there is ‘something missing’ in your love-life. Sex is OK, if not predictable. You still ‘love’ your partner/spouse but something’s wrong. You start to realize that you and your…

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I’m Falling For A Woman With A Kid

By Dr. Jordan / November 30, 2012 /

You fell in love with a woman who has a child from another man. She may have been married or not. The point is she has a kid. She comes as a ‘package deal.’ You’ve sworn up and down that you would never get involved, really involved, with a woman who has a child. As…

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Smell & Taste Of The Person You Love

By Dr. Jordan / October 26, 2012 /

Let’s examine the notion that you’ll enjoy the smell and taste of someone you’re in love with more than someone you’re not in love with. Is this the smell and taste of chemical compatibility in love? The sense of smell and taste are a bit more primitive, or less cultured, if you don’t like the…

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My Suicidal Lover

By Dr. Jordan / October 15, 2012 /

First up, is the realization that threatening suicide to get what you want in a love relationship is fundamentally sickness. There is no way to rationally explain the need for this kind of behavior in love. Then why does it occur? Because it is an extreme way of securing ‘control’ over someone. Before discussing the…

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My Lover Lies To Me

By Dr. Jordan / October 12, 2012 /

At this time of political uncertainty, most people would like to meet the ‘honest person.’ This is particularly true in our love-lives as well. True love doesn’t have a snowball’s chance in hell without honesty. Before we launch into a discussion of lying and your love-life, let’s take a little ‘Dishonesty 101’ course in preparation. Dishonesty,…

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Can’t Stop Abuse?

By Dr. Jordan / September 27, 2012 /

This post is part of a series dedicated to the resolution of critical love-life problems. The problem is you’re in an abusive relationship. You are being controlled and mistreated by your lover in some way and you are conscious of having an intermittent feeling of fear. At this point in time, the thought of leaving…

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How To Confront Your Lover

By Dr. Jordan / August 28, 2012 /

A love-life ‘confrontation,’ as I wish to use the word in this post, involves getting in your lover’s face and letting him or her know in a direct way that you don’t like something he or she is doing. Most of the time a confrontation is needed because: 1. what he or she is doing…

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Can’t Commit To A Lover

By Dr. Jordan / August 4, 2012 /

This post is one of a series that focuses on the things you can do to begin working on a particular love-life problem. The problem we are focusing on is your difficulty making a commitment to a love relationship.  The basic problem that complicates making a love commitment is the fear of being controlled or…

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Rebound: I’m Leaving My Lover For You

By Dr. Jordan / June 14, 2012 /

Let’s start with a definition of the word ‘rebound.’ Love-life rebound means, you are leaving one relationship and going immediately into another. The key word here is ‘immediately.’ No breather, no pause, no catch my breath, no time alone, no soul searching, just a bounce into a new relationship with a new lover. Can this…

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