marriage
Ready for a little ‘love geometry’ lesson? You’ve heard of a ‘love triangle,’ right? That’s when A is married to B and B has an affair with C. You’ve got a triangle. A is connected to B connected to C. OK. Let’s add another person to make this a quadrangle (square). A is married to…
Here’s a hard but indisputable fact, getting married won’t improve your love relationship. Unfortunately, some people think it will, and get married hoping it will. Believing that it will is similar to the let’s have a baby to improve our love relationship idea. I think this is worth saying again for those of you still resisting…
Just because your lover is separated from his wife does not mean he is not ‘bound’ to her in some way. Seriously, if you are in love with a ‘separated’ man, it’s important to be able to differentiate between a ‘physical separation’ and an ’emotional separation.’ You also need to know the difference between ‘leaving’…
This post is for those of you who are upset about not being married yet. I’m not saying you have to be married to be happy. Not these days. I’m simply offering a few thoughts and insights that may be of some use to those of you who are wishing you were married. OK, we…
Here’s the love-life problem: you get married to a person whose father ‘controls’ her or him. Now this is common in a ‘guy marries girl who hasn’t separated from her family of origin’ scenario. But the gender is not the important part. The fact that the person you love is not yet free, is. OK,…
Here’s a love-life problem that can be painful. A couple get married and at some point, perhaps after a couple of kids, the wife finds out her husband is gay. I have treated a person or two with this love-life problem over the years. Treatment essentially helps the wife grieve the loss of the relationship,…
Have you ever encountered this kind of love-life problem? You are in a love relationship with someone you are falling in love with or have fallen in love with and he or she says to you when you inquire about marriage, “I can’t marry you but I love you.” Nine times out of ten the reason…
Why would a married man use prostitutes? Maybe his wife isn’t giving him enough sex and he’s frustrated. He doesn’t want to leave his wife so he pays for sex when he needs to. Or he has an extra large libido. His spouse can’t satisfy him so in addition to having sex with his wife…
What did I learn in 19 years of marriage? Well, I’ll tell you. 1. Eat crow every so often as needed. You are never going to always be right. Every once in awhile you’ll mess up. Learn to tolerate apologizing and make sure it’s sincere. But remember, apologies are worthless if they’re too frequent, and…