love-life
You don’t need a set of brass balls to set a limit on someone you love. Just a clear understanding that if you let him or her take advantage of you, your love relationship will be damaged by your avoidance or neglect. Standing up for yourself is an essential part of any relationship and even…
Read MoreI personally knew two men who couldn’t live without their wives. I’ll call them Fred and Max, respectively. I’ll start with Fred. He made it to a ripe old age. His wife was younger than him when she died. He knew no other woman and had been married for more than 70 years. When she…
Read MoreBeing together is a beautiful thing when you’re in love. We all would agree with that. What is a lot harder is ‘separating’ when you’re in love. The type of separation I’m talking about is the ability to temporarily depart from your lover in a constructive and healthy way that ultimately improves your love relationship.…
Read MoreWhat did I learn in 19 years of marriage? Well, I’ll tell you. 1. Eat crow every so often as needed. You are never going to always be right. Every once in awhile you’ll mess up. Learn to tolerate apologizing and make sure it’s sincere. But remember, apologies are worthless if they’re too frequent, and…
Read MoreYou’ve had a baby. You were hoping to start a family together with the father of your baby. Unexpectedly, he left you and your baby shortly after the birth. You are feeling sad, angry, abandoned, and you are worried about being able to raise your baby alone. You need to make sense out of what…
Read MoreWho is paying for dinner on your date? Can you hear the silent thoughts and questions? Will she offer to go dutch? Would I accept it if she did? I wonder if he’s going to pick up the bill or ask me for money? Will I say I have any money with me if he…
Read MoreI’m sure you’ve heard this tired old expression more than once, “be yourself!” It’s the advice we usually give each other when one of us is trying to be something or someone other than who we really are. Unfortunately it is common for a person to try to solve life’s problems by taking on a…
Read MoreThis post is for women who experienced some form of trauma earlier in their lives (emotional, sexual, physical trauma, or some combination) who now have a child and fear bringing a new man into their child’s life. You don’t want anything to happen to your child. You may have avoided dealing with this issue by…
Read MoreSex is fundamentally a biological function. The meaning it is given by people is the result of beliefs about sex, interpretations we’ve learned to apply to it. There are many different forms of interpretation possible for a sexual experience. Our institutions and families of origin teach us to think about sex in certain ways. They…
Read MoreThis classic picture depicts the true state of affairs when it comes to the ‘intrusive mother-in-law.’ This is a mother who is still psychologically merged with her daughter at the time that you, the husband, take her as your wife. Just like in the sketch, if you look at it one way, you see your…
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