He Lives With The Mother of His Children

By Dr. Jordan / September 30, 2013 /

Imagine being in love with a person who has chosen to live with the mother of his kids, only because he wants to be in his children’s lives growing up. No he doesn’t love their mother, at least not admittedly, even though she might be trying to love him. You know he loves you, however…

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Coping With The Pains of Love

By Dr. Jordan / March 23, 2013 /

We all know love as an elusive emotion with a mind of its own. Many of us also know love as a painful emotion. Sometimes loves doesn’t come when we want it to or leaves when we want it to stay. I have been writing about love now for the past year on this blog.…

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Alone For The Holidays

By Dr. Jordan / December 25, 2012 /

Being alone is difficult enough, never mind being alone on the holidays. It’s important that you have a psychological ‘strategy’ in mind to cope with the experience. You don’t want to be wandering around during the holidays looking for something to do and feeling bad about yourself. Being around people you know will be useful…

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Breaking Up After A Long Relationship

By Dr. Jordan / November 10, 2012 /

Sometimes a love relationship ends after years of being together. I could list all the possible reasons why this could happen, but I won’t. I think it would be more useful to point out that we cannot really control what happens to love over time no matter what the reasons are. Some couples take good…

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Your Absent Mother & Your Love-Life

By Dr. Jordan / October 21, 2012 /

To be sure, our mothers have a very powerful influence on our love-lives. Why? Ideally, they are the first to teach us about love. For the most part I’ll be talking about your ‘biological mother.’ That’s the mother who gave birth to you. Even though the role of mother has more to do with which…

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Loving Someone Who Doesn’t Love You

By Dr. Jordan / July 5, 2012 /

Loving someone who doesn’t love you has got to be one of the most disappointing love-life problems out there. The only way it would be worse is if you and the person you love were together for a while and then he or she fell out of love with you. In either case, you want…

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Coping With Rejection

By Dr. Jordan / June 8, 2012 /

Rejection in any form tends to be painful. Especially when you have your heart set on something or someone. Rejection when you love someone is the most painful of all. When this happens you are faced with the task of having to grieve a loss or else turn ‘bitter.’ Bitterness is the feeling that takes…

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Sick Mother & Her Daughter’s Love-Life

By Dr. Jordan / May 8, 2012 /

This post is about the possible effects of a ‘sick mother’ on a daughter’s adult love-life. My female patients often see a connection between the difficulty they are having in their love-lives and the fact of their own mother’s emotional sickness when they were growing up. This state of ‘sickness’ includes either or both physical and…

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Absent Father & His Daughter’s Love-Life

By Dr. Jordan / May 6, 2012 /

This post is about the possible effects of an emotionally absent father on a daughter’s adult love life. Many women see a connection between the difficulty they are having in their love lives and the fact of their own father’s absence when they were growing up. The state of ‘absence’ I am talking about includes both…

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Love-Life Tip: Grieve When Love Is Lost

By Dr. Jordan / April 26, 2012 /

When love comes it’s easier than when it leaves, right? Even though love can drive us crazy when it arrives unannounced, for most of us it’s a great joy when it arrives. I think the biggest problem for lovers is we are forgetting how to ‘grieve.’ Why? Because grief hurts and we try to get…

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