Dr. Jordan
This is an interesting love-life problem. Your lover makes more money than you. Question is, what effect does that have on your relationship? If you’re a woman, your gender has traditionally expected and adapted to this difference. For most traditional couples, the man is expected to make more money than his female counterpart. If he…
Read MoreIf you want to increase the chances of finding and sustaining a healthy love relationship, I strongly recommend you review your love-life. I’m calling this exercise a Love-Life Review. By doing a Love-Life Review you’re acknowledging to yourself, first and foremost, that a healthy love relationship isn’t just about finding the right person, at the…
Read MoreYou got married or committed to someone, and he or she has a bunch of single friends. Friends who aren’t about to give up one of their own, at least not without a fight. Your husband truly wants to be married but he also likes going out and being with his single friends. Where does…
Read MoreThis post is for those of you who are upset about not being married yet. I’m not saying you have to be married to be happy. Not these days. I’m simply offering a few thoughts and insights that may be of some use to those of you who are wishing you were married. OK, we…
Read MoreHere’s the love-life problem: you get married to a person whose father ‘controls’ her or him. Now this is common in a ‘guy marries girl who hasn’t separated from her family of origin’ scenario. But the gender is not the important part. The fact that the person you love is not yet free, is. OK,…
Read MoreBeing ashamed of yourself is one of the most painful feelings to have, and as you might have already guessed, has a very destructive effect on your love-life. The opposite of shame is self-acceptance. Self-acceptance simply means, you are OK with yourself, regardless of what other people think. What exactly is shame? Humiliation and distress…
Read MoreYour lover, wife, or husband is mentally ill. You love him/her so much. But living together can be difficult and demanding at times. How do you cope with this situation without getting sick yourself? First off, you’re probably a ‘caretaker.’ Has anyone ever said that to you? People who are chronically ill, predisposed to illness,…
Read MoreThe contemporary objective for gay and lesbian couples seeking marriage is to create a healthy gay marriage in what has been until now a largely heterosexual institution. Before delving into this topic it is important for interested readers to realize that some gay persons have been living as ‘married’ couples long before gay marriage became…
Read MoreA love-life ‘confrontation,’ as I wish to use the word in this post, involves getting in your lover’s face and letting him or her know in a direct way that you don’t like something he or she is doing. Most of the time a confrontation is needed because: 1. what he or she is doing…
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