Dr. Jordan
Everyone knows the breakup of a love relationship is painful. Even more painful when you’re the one that doesn’t want it to end. Some people get self-destructive after a breakup because they are in pain, and can’t or choose not to manage that pain in any other way. These are a few of the common…
When your heart gets broken by a lover who betrays your trust in some way, revenge is the worst thing you can do. Why? Because it basically means you’ve allowed what he or she has done to you to govern what you do for yourself and to him or her. This reaction keeps you firmly…
This post is part of a series dedicated to the resolution of critical love-life problems. The problem is you’re in an abusive relationship. You are being controlled and mistreated by your lover in some way and you are conscious of having an intermittent feeling of fear. At this point in time, the thought of leaving…
There are couples who fall in love and become so preoccupied with each other that they put little time and energy into friendships they both had before the relationship. They get ‘frozen’ in a love relationship that has little or no room for anyone else. You could say they get ‘frozen’ in an exclusive love…
This is an interesting love-life problem. Your lover makes more money than you. Question is, what effect does that have on your relationship? If you’re a woman, your gender has traditionally expected and adapted to this difference. For most traditional couples, the man is expected to make more money than his female counterpart. If he…
If you want to increase the chances of finding and sustaining a healthy love relationship, I strongly recommend you review your love-life. I’m calling this exercise a Love-Life Review. By doing a Love-Life Review you’re acknowledging to yourself, first and foremost, that a healthy love relationship isn’t just about finding the right person, at the…
You got married or committed to someone, and he or she has a bunch of single friends. Friends who aren’t about to give up one of their own, at least not without a fight. Your husband truly wants to be married but he also likes going out and being with his single friends. Where does…
This post is for those of you who are upset about not being married yet. I’m not saying you have to be married to be happy. Not these days. I’m simply offering a few thoughts and insights that may be of some use to those of you who are wishing you were married. OK, we…
Here’s the love-life problem: you get married to a person whose father ‘controls’ her or him. Now this is common in a ‘guy marries girl who hasn’t separated from her family of origin’ scenario. But the gender is not the important part. The fact that the person you love is not yet free, is. OK,…