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My Lover Is Rough in Bed

By Dr. Jordan / October 6, 2012 /

If your husband or lover is rough in bed, the first question you have to ask yourself is, do you like it? I’m not going to assume that your curiosity about this post title means you don’t. If you say you do then you have to admit to yourself that you’ve helped set up your…

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Older Women & Younger Men

By Dr. Jordan / October 5, 2012 /

Older women and younger men have been getting together for as long as there has been love in the world. The problem is not the age difference. The problem is the presence or absence of maturity. If an older woman is looking for a younger lover to be in control of, to ‘parent,’ this will…

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Inter-Racial Love Relationships

By Dr. Jordan / October 3, 2012 /

Can love emerge for anyone? Or does it follow prototypes established while growing up? Both. How? Love is an uncontrollable and unpredictable phenomena of human emotion. Yet we learn how to shape the experiences of love that emerge with what we’ve learn about people in our families of origin and throughout our entire lives. For…

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Self-Destructive After A Breakup

By Dr. Jordan / September 29, 2012 /

Everyone knows the breakup of a love relationship is painful. Even more painful when you’re the one that doesn’t want it to end. Some people get self-destructive after a breakup because they are in pain, and can’t or choose not to manage that pain in any other way. These are a few of the common…

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Avoid Revenge For Your Broken Heart

By Dr. Jordan / September 28, 2012 /

When your heart gets broken by a lover who betrays your trust in some way, revenge is the worst thing you can do. Why? Because it basically means you’ve allowed what he or she has done to you to govern what you do for yourself and to him or her. This reaction keeps you firmly…

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Can’t Stop Abuse?

By Dr. Jordan / September 27, 2012 /

This post is part of a series dedicated to the resolution of critical love-life problems. The problem is you’re in an abusive relationship. You are being controlled and mistreated by your lover in some way and you are conscious of having an intermittent feeling of fear. At this point in time, the thought of leaving…

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Losing Friends When Falling In Love

By Dr. Jordan / September 26, 2012 /

There are couples who fall in love and become so preoccupied with each other that they put little time and energy into friendships they both had before the relationship. They get ‘frozen’ in a love relationship that has little or no room for anyone else. You could say they get ‘frozen’ in an exclusive love…

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My Lover Makes More Money Than Me

By Dr. Jordan / September 23, 2012 /

This is an interesting love-life problem. Your lover makes more money than you. Question is, what effect does that have on your relationship? If you’re a woman, your gender has traditionally expected and adapted to this difference. For most traditional couples, the man is expected to make more money than his female counterpart. If he…

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Do A ‘Love-Life Review’

By Dr. Jordan / September 22, 2012 /

If you want to increase the chances of finding and sustaining a healthy love relationship, I strongly recommend you review your love-life. I’m calling this exercise a Love-Life Review. By doing a Love-Life Review you’re acknowledging to yourself, first and foremost, that a healthy love relationship isn’t just about finding the right person, at the…

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My Husband’s Friends

By Dr. Jordan / September 22, 2012 /

You got married or committed to someone, and he or she has a bunch of single friends. Friends who aren’t about to give up one of their own, at least not without a fight. Your husband truly wants to be married but he also likes going out and being with his single friends. Where does…

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