Dr. Jordan
This post is about living in the world with your ‘X-husband’ or ‘X-wife’ after your divorce. Ideally, the end of your marriage is final and you don’t have to deal with your ‘X’ any more. You can move on to a new life and eventually a new love, right? Well, unfortunately it’s a little more…
Read MoreThere has always been a double standard as far as being single in middle-age goes. Men always had an easier time of it. In the old days, a single woman in middle-age was known as an ‘old maid’ or a ‘spinster.’ The idea of consciously choosing to live as a single woman was not really…
Read MoreHere’s the situation, you were married, now you’re separated. Problem is, you’ve been separated for a while, a long while, maybe several years or even many years. Why would two people stay technically married but separated for so long? These are some of the superficial reasons people tell me. It cost too much to divorce. OK,…
Read MoreThe idea is to be yourself when you fall in love, right? Or should I say, the idea is to stay yourself when you fall in love? I think one of the biggest love-life problems is that people change who they are when they make a commitment to love. Before the commitment many couples have more fun and enjoy…
Read MoreThe ‘double standard’ essentially refers to the fact there is still a significant inequality between men and women in areas where there shouldn’t be. It simply means men and women are still on occasion judged by a separate and different sent of standards. One standard for men, and one standard for women. The usual critique…
Read MoreLoving someone who doesn’t love you has got to be one of the most disappointing love-life problems out there. The only way it would be worse is if you and the person you love were together for a while and then he or she fell out of love with you. In either case, you want…
Read MoreYears ago, the single man who chose to remain single as an adult was considered by many to be a a novelty but by no means an anomaly. He was a ‘playboy’ or ‘bachelor’ and envied by some who fantasized about multiple sexual encounters and self-determination. This single man was protected by a double standard…
Read MoreHave you ever encountered this kind of love-life problem? You are in a love relationship with someone you are falling in love with or have fallen in love with and he or she says to you when you inquire about marriage, “I can’t marry you but I love you.” Nine times out of ten the reason…
Read MoreSome men are used only for their sperm. This should not come as a shock to anyone. Changes in attitudes towards physical procreation aided by modern science have made this more common and acceptable. But it’s the psychological part that needs exploration and understanding. There are two types of sperm donor Dads that come to…
Read MoreAt one point long ago the word ‘alone’ was ‘all-one.’ The underlying meaning of the word changed from a positive emphasis on ‘oneness’ or individuality to the negative implication of being unhappy ‘by oneself.’ Now when we use the word alone, most people will think of an experience worth avoiding. As in “I’m all alone.”…
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