Dr. Jordan
This post is for those of you who are upset about not being married yet. I’m not saying you have to be married to be happy. Not these days. I’m simply offering a few thoughts and insights that may be of some use to those of you who are wishing you were married. OK, we…
Read MoreHere’s the love-life problem: you get married to a person whose father ‘controls’ her or him. Now this is common in a ‘guy marries girl who hasn’t separated from her family of origin’ scenario. But the gender is not the important part. The fact that the person you love is not yet free, is. OK,…
Read MoreBeing ashamed of yourself is one of the most painful feelings to have, and as you might have already guessed, has a very destructive effect on your love-life. The opposite of shame is self-acceptance. Self-acceptance simply means, you are OK with yourself, regardless of what other people think. What exactly is shame? Humiliation and distress…
Read MoreYour lover, wife, or husband is mentally ill. You love him/her so much. But living together can be difficult and demanding at times. How do you cope with this situation without getting sick yourself? First off, you’re probably a ‘caretaker.’ Has anyone ever said that to you? People who are chronically ill, predisposed to illness,…
Read MoreThe contemporary objective for gay and lesbian couples seeking marriage is to create a healthy gay marriage in what has been until now a largely heterosexual institution. Before delving into this topic it is important for interested readers to realize that some gay persons have been living as ‘married’ couples long before gay marriage became…
Read MoreA love-life ‘confrontation,’ as I wish to use the word in this post, involves getting in your lover’s face and letting him or her know in a direct way that you don’t like something he or she is doing. Most of the time a confrontation is needed because: 1. what he or she is doing…
Read MoreIn my experience, the love life problems that cause the most illness are: 1. breakup of a love relationship resulting in separation and divorce, if married; 2. chronic feelings of loneliness when living alone; 3. chronic mistreatment or abuse in a love relationship; 4. death of a lover or spouse. The most common forms of…
Read MoreLet’s talk about awkwardness. First there’s awkwardness the a human experience that can happen to anybody under the right social conditions. Then there’s awkwardness that occurs frequently enough to be considered a personality trait. But what is awkwardness? Awkwardness occurs when your concern about another person’s opinions, judgments, or feelings outweighs your ability to confidently…
Read MoreHere’s a love-life problem that can be painful. A couple get married and at some point, perhaps after a couple of kids, the wife finds out her husband is gay. I have treated a person or two with this love-life problem over the years. Treatment essentially helps the wife grieve the loss of the relationship,…
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