Month: June 2013
Hate is a disturbed need for love. Don’t kid yourself, hate is a very passionate emotion. You just don’t hate any ole person. No, hate is reserved for people who you want love from, secretly or more obviously. Too often hate is confused with garden variety anger, an emotion that can readily be directly at…
Read MoreI’ve been collecting a lot of great phrases and quotes from my patients lately. The latest is a reference made to something called ‘premeditated hurting.’ This was contrasted with what my patient called ‘accidental hurting.’ Premeditated hurting takes place when someone you love hurts you by design. In other words, he or she has put…
Read MoreDo you need someone to love to feel good about you? On the surface of this question, your reaction might be to say, of course when I have someone to love I feel better about myself. If you take a little deeper look into the implications of this question, you’ll find the problem of love…
Read MoreI sat with a single woman the other day who used the phrase, ‘A reason, a season, a lifetime’ to refer to the different categories of men she was meeting. I had never heard the phrase before. She explained that the eligible people she was meeting always fall into one of the three categories. People…
Read MoreWhat is a ‘one night stand’ and is it good for your love life? The most common definition of a ‘one night stand’ is sex without really knowing one’s sexual partner. The one night stand can occur with someone completely unknown in a first time encounter, or with someone who has been met previously but…
Read MoreWhat is this state of mind we call ‘needy?’ First and foremost, it’s a human thing and we all know what it’s like to be temporarily needy. The ‘y’ on the end of the word ‘need,’ however, adds some extras to the word that require understanding. At this point in time, the word ‘needy’ tends…
Read MoreYou’ll know you’re in ‘true love’ if hurting the person you love hurts you as well. If this happens to you, you are sympathetically connected with another person. Now this might be a little scary to some of you, you know, the prospect of being connected like this. It will be particularly difficult for those of…
Read MoreDo you know what your family taught you about love? All families teach their children about love during the course of childhood and adolescence and sometimes beyond. The best you can hope for is that the love lessons you learned were positive and useful. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. Mostly because we can’t…
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