Month: April 2013
How can you tell you are trying to relate to a narcissistic person? The feeling you get when you’re together is it’s all about him or her. The reciprocity that is commonly found between two people interested in each other is mostly absent. Questions directed at you are really only a preamble that redirects a…
Read MoreWhat is ‘nagging?’ In essence, nagging is the act of harassing someone with repeated reminders to do something. Nagging is a relationship problem that involves two people: the one who nags and the one who avoids. In other words, nags don’t nag in a vacuum. Nags require an avoiding person to co-create a cycle of…
Read MoreWhat is a bully? Someone who gets his or her own way by being threatening and scary. In a love relationship it’s a person who tries to control his or partner with verbal or emotional abuse. If you have the misfortune of being in love with one you should be aware of a few facts…
Read MoreOne of the most important precursors of a healthy love life is how you feel about you. Think of it this way, how you feel about and treat yourself will have lots to do with how you feel about and treat someone you love, and just as important, what you accept as treatment from him…
Read MoreSomeone sent me a question recently asking if he should allow his girlfriend to ‘talk to’ a man she had recently cheated with. She had apparently got caught and then asked for forgiveness from her boyfriend to remain in the relationship. I thought the question highlighted a particularly difficult situation and worth a post. I…
Read MoreI’m going to assume that people who want kids and people who don’t want kids might read this post. I know this to be a pretty sensitive topic. As far as I’m concerned there is no right or wrong here, just personal choices. Perhaps the rule of thumb should be: find someone that wants what…
Read MoreIF SOMEONE IS MAKING YOU FEEL SCARED OR UNSAFE, you may be able to get an Order of Protection or ‘OP’ (also called a ‘restraining order’) from a New York State Family Court, Criminal Court or both. The Supreme Court can also issue an OP if you are getting a divorce. WHAT IS AN ORDER OF…
Read MoreYesterday I sat with a very pregnant woman. In fact she is 7 months pregnant with twins. She told me a secret that pregnant women probably all know about but never tell (except to each other, maybe). She broke ranks and told me (a man!) about the ‘pregnant woman’s prerogative.’ Now if you’re a pregnant…
Read MoreBy Susan Greene MA, MFTI Guest writer for the Love-Life Learning Center When it comes to the quality of relationships you have with someone you are in love with, the quality of the relationship you have with yourself cannot be ignored. Betrayals Addictions Emotional, Verbal, Physical, or Financial Abuse These issues are common to couples…
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