Case Studies
How can you tell you are trying to relate to a narcissistic person? The feeling you get when you’re together is it’s all about him or her. The reciprocity that is commonly found between two people interested in each other is mostly absent. Questions directed at you are really only a preamble that redirects a…
Read MoreIf you are an adult ‘virgin’ you are either a very young adult or you are saving yourself for someone special. In either case there should be nothing to be ashamed of. I said ‘should be’ because nowadays adult virginity tends to be a ‘secret virtue’ a person would probably hide from the judgment of…
Read MoreRecently a man asked me, do you think it is possible for a relationship with a married woman to have a ‘happy ending?’ And if so, how can that be achieved? I want to spell out the steps that need to be taken for those of you who are struggling in love with a married woman.…
Read MoreRape is a violent act against a person. Its sexual aspect is always secondary. The violence involved is primary. Rape is simply violence acted out in a sexual form. In this post we will answer the questions: what psychological damage does rape create, and what psychological aftereffects does rape leave in the victim’s love-life? Rape…
Read MoreHere’s the love-life problem: you get married to a person whose father ‘controls’ her or him. Now this is common in a ‘guy marries girl who hasn’t separated from her family of origin’ scenario. But the gender is not the important part. The fact that the person you love is not yet free, is. OK,…
Read MoreBeing ashamed of yourself is one of the most painful feelings to have, and as you might have already guessed, has a very destructive effect on your love-life. The opposite of shame is self-acceptance. Self-acceptance simply means, you are OK with yourself, regardless of what other people think. What exactly is shame? Humiliation and distress…
Read MoreThere has always been a double standard as far as being single in middle-age goes. Men always had an easier time of it. In the old days, a single woman in middle-age was known as an ‘old maid’ or a ‘spinster.’ The idea of consciously choosing to live as a single woman was not really…
Read MoreYears ago, the single man who chose to remain single as an adult was considered by many to be a a novelty but by no means an anomaly. He was a ‘playboy’ or ‘bachelor’ and envied by some who fantasized about multiple sexual encounters and self-determination. This single man was protected by a double standard…
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