love
As a clinical psychologist and psychological disability consultant in New York City over the past 36 years, I’ve learned that a disappointing love life is often the unacknowledged source of emotional illness and stress-related physical illness, resulting in diminished job performance and recurrent episodes of short-term disability. What is a disappointing love life? A love…
In this 21st century, truth is under attack. It is getting progressively harder and harder for us human beings to discern what is true from what is false. When we are no longer able to do so, our ability to live in relation to reality will have been sacrificed. Lies, pretense, and fabrication have become…
It is obvious to most people that we have begun what some people refer to as the “AI Revolution.” A time in history when the machine, as a consequence of technological evolution, has become capable of accurately mimicking human beings. AI is able to interact with its user as though it is another human being.…
We come into this world needing love. Love is essential to life and health. When newly born infants are deprived of love there are dire physical and emotional consequences. There are old studies that examined the dire consequences of being born and institutionalized without love. Sickness and behavioral disorder are a common aftereffect. Infant humans…
Love takes three forms in adulthood: the love we give to another, the love we give to ourselves, and the love we get when love is given to us. Let’s talk about each one of these separately. First there is the love we give to another. This is basically a “self-less” love meant to build up…
My love life research has taught me that our love lives are in our minds. What you’ve unconsciously learned about love relationships from the relationship experiences you’ve had in life is in control of your love life. As illustrated by the individual in the image pointing toward his own mind as he symbolically contemplates his…
Regarding the word “intimacy,” let’s separate the word from its commonly assumed sexual meaning and focus on its usage in the phrase “emotional intimacy.” What is emotional intimacy anyway? I am referring to the ability to form and sustain a healthy loving relationship. Let’s assume that when a person “falls in love,” the actual choice involved in…
Most of us would agree that the emotion of love is an essential ingredient for healthy development. When love is absent or distorted in the context of unhealthy relationships, unhealthy personality and interpersonal consequences are for certain. The unfortunate reality is there are many parents raising children who have been exposed to unhealthy loving in…
Is it time to work on your love life? Odd question? We work on everything else: social life, work life, family life, financial life… We have a divorce rate that remains steady at somewhere around 50% and it gets higher for second and third marriages. Maybe we’ve gotten complacent and accept the inevitability of a…
If you’re done making the same old love life mistakes in your disappointing love life and it’s time to really work on your love life….the most important question you have to answer is: What kind of relationship do you form when you fall in love? Is it healthy? Unhealthy? Is the relationship you form when you…