Sustaining a Relationship

My Lover Is Rough in Bed

By Dr. Jordan / October 6, 2012 /

If your husband or lover is rough in bed, the first question you have to ask yourself is, do you like it? I’m not going to assume that your curiosity about this post title means you don’t. If you say you do then you have to admit to yourself that you’ve helped set up your…

Read More

Inter-Racial Love Relationships

By Dr. Jordan / October 3, 2012 /

Can love emerge for anyone? Or does it follow prototypes established while growing up? Both. How? Love is an uncontrollable and unpredictable phenomena of human emotion. Yet we learn how to shape the experiences of love that emerge with what we’ve learn about people in our families of origin and throughout our entire lives. For…

Read More

Losing Friends When Falling In Love

By Dr. Jordan / September 26, 2012 /

There are couples who fall in love and become so preoccupied with each other that they put little time and energy into friendships they both had before the relationship. They get ‘frozen’ in a love relationship that has little or no room for anyone else. You could say they get ‘frozen’ in an exclusive love…

Read More

My Father-in-Law Controls My Marriage

By Dr. Jordan / September 7, 2012 /

Here’s the love-life problem: you get married to a person whose father ‘controls’ her or him. Now this is common in a ‘guy marries girl who hasn’t separated from her family of origin’ scenario. But the gender is not the important part. The fact that the person you love is not yet free, is. OK,…

Read More

My Lover Is Emotionally Ill

By Dr. Jordan / September 1, 2012 /

Your lover, wife, or husband is mentally ill. You love him/her so much. But living together can be difficult and demanding at times. How do you cope with this situation without getting sick yourself? First off, you’re probably a ‘caretaker.’ Has anyone ever said that to you? People who are chronically ill, predisposed to illness,…

Read More

How To Confront Your Lover

By Dr. Jordan / August 28, 2012 /

A love-life ‘confrontation,’ as I wish to use the word in this post, involves getting in your lover’s face and letting him or her know in a direct way that you don’t like something he or she is doing. Most of the time a confrontation is needed because: 1. what he or she is doing…

Read More

Staying In Love

By Dr. Jordan / July 12, 2012 /

The idea is to be yourself when you fall in love, right? Or should I say, the idea is to stay yourself when you fall in love? I think one of the biggest love-life problems is that people change who they are when they make a commitment to love. Before the commitment many couples have more fun and enjoy…

Read More

Love-Life Tip: Answer This Question?

By Dr. Jordan / May 2, 2012 /

The most important question to ask yourself when you’re trying to make a change in your love-life is: How do my past experiences influence my love-life? It’s important to have some idea about what you’ve learned about love earlier in life and whether or not what you’ve learned is helping or hurting your love-life. What…

Read More