Dr. Jordan
The love-life rule is, you have to heal your heart before you can love again. You might try to get around this. Chances are you’ll get stuck with a chronically broken heart. This is not good. It will remain as a barrier in your love-life. Why is this true? This is the way we humans are…
Here’s the situation, you’re in a committed relationship or marriage. After a few years you start to feel dissatisfied and unhappy. You start to feel like there is ‘something missing’ in your love-life. Sex is OK, if not predictable. You still ‘love’ your partner/spouse but something’s wrong. You start to realize that you and your…
If you love a ‘workaholic’ you’ll need to think about a few things. An addiction to ‘work’ is like an addiction to eating or sex, we all need to have it but in the right proportions. Not enough and there is a problem. Excessive amounts and there is also a problem. Workaholics on the surface…
Love can only thrive if there is trust. If you’ve imposed limits on what can and cannot be known about you, a love relationship will be difficult to say the least. When two people are in love they are united. If privacy is important to maintain your ‘boundaries’ as a person, love will feel like…
You fell in love and your lover started asking for money. You’ve given money to him or her and he or she never pays you back. He or she keeps asking for more money. It feels like it has become a condition of your relationship. You start to worry, but you don’t say anything about…
Being alone is difficult enough, never mind being alone on the holidays. It’s important that you have a psychological ‘strategy’ in mind to cope with the experience. You don’t want to be wandering around during the holidays looking for something to do and feeling bad about yourself. Being around people you know will be useful…
What is flirting? Flirting is playfully communicating attraction to someone. On the surface it looks like flirting is simply a playful interaction with someone you’re attracted to without the intention of taking it any further. The ‘further’ would be dating, intimacy, love, relationship, etc. Why do people flirt? Flirting communicates interest or desire. It communicates to…
You grieve because you loved. This is why your grief exists. Grief is love turned upside down. Grief is as natural as rain. It is made to come and go and decrease over time. Grief lingers only when we do not give grief the time it requires. If you welcome grief as a sign of love…
You fell in love and the holidays are here. But your lover is unavailable for the holidays. On the milder side of this problem, your lover can’t be around because he or she is working far away on the holidays. Maybe your lover is in the military and in another country. Or he or she is…
You might expect me to start talking about better things to wear, better places to go, and better people to meet. I know better than that. My research on love has taught me that you improve your love-life by improving yourself. You might not know what I’m talking about, so let me spell it out…