Dr. Jordan
There seems to be a little controversy brewing at LLLC between the people who think choosing to remain single is tragic and people who believe that every individual should have the right to choose to be single. Great! I’d like to weigh in with a few thoughts and reflections on the issue of ‘choosing to…
What is the Madonna-Whore Syndrome and is this still relevant to our love lives in the 21st century? A man came to see me the other day. He complained that he was in love with two women. One woman he had a child with and…
We are all taught how to learn from a very early age. Educational achievement is strongly emphasized and valued in this culture and many other cultures around the world. This emphasis on education has created an ability to learn and apply what was learned in our everyday lives. The one learning topic that is overlooked…
As far as I’m concerned, if you marry your best friend the chances are good that you’ll have a great marriage to look forward to. My formula for a great marriage is a relationship that contains three essential ingredients: romance, partnership and friendship. Romance speaks for itself. You have to have a good dose of…
How can you tell you are trying to relate to a narcissistic person? The feeling you get when you’re together is it’s all about him or her. The reciprocity that is commonly found between two people interested in each other is mostly absent. Questions directed at you are really only a preamble that redirects a…
What is ‘nagging?’ In essence, nagging is the act of harassing someone with repeated reminders to do something. Nagging is a relationship problem that involves two people: the one who nags and the one who avoids. In other words, nags don’t nag in a vacuum. Nags require an avoiding person to co-create a cycle of…
What is a bully? Someone who gets his or her own way by being threatening and scary. In a love relationship it’s a person who tries to control his or partner with verbal or emotional abuse. If you have the misfortune of being in love with one you should be aware of a few facts…
One of the most important precursors of a healthy love life is how you feel about you. Think of it this way, how you feel about and treat yourself will have lots to do with how you feel about and treat someone you love, and just as important, what you accept as treatment from him…
Someone sent me a question recently asking if he should allow his girlfriend to ‘talk to’ a man she had recently cheated with. She had apparently got caught and then asked for forgiveness from her boyfriend to remain in the relationship. I thought the question highlighted a particularly difficult situation and worth a post. I…