relationships
Your lover, wife, or husband is mentally ill. You love him/her so much. But living together can be difficult and demanding at times. How do you cope with this situation without getting sick yourself? First off, you’re probably a ‘caretaker.’ Has anyone ever said that to you? People who are chronically ill, predisposed to illness,…
Read MoreThe contemporary objective for gay and lesbian couples seeking marriage is to create a healthy gay marriage in what has been until now a largely heterosexual institution. Before delving into this topic it is important for interested readers to realize that some gay persons have been living as ‘married’ couples long before gay marriage became…
Read MoreIn my experience, the love life problems that cause the most illness are: 1. breakup of a love relationship resulting in separation and divorce, if married; 2. chronic feelings of loneliness when living alone; 3. chronic mistreatment or abuse in a love relationship; 4. death of a lover or spouse. The most common forms of…
Read MoreLet’s talk about awkwardness. First there’s awkwardness the a human experience that can happen to anybody under the right social conditions. Then there’s awkwardness that occurs frequently enough to be considered a personality trait. But what is awkwardness? Awkwardness occurs when your concern about another person’s opinions, judgments, or feelings outweighs your ability to confidently…
Read MoreHere’s a love-life problem that can be painful. A couple get married and at some point, perhaps after a couple of kids, the wife finds out her husband is gay. I have treated a person or two with this love-life problem over the years. Treatment essentially helps the wife grieve the loss of the relationship,…
Read MoreYour parents are divorced. Your father met someone new and now he has a girlfriend. Maybe she’s younger than him, maybe she’s not. The trouble is, you don’t like her. Maybe you didn’t like her from the moment you met her, maybe it took a little while before you were turned off. The point is,…
Read MoreHere’s the situation: you’re the daughter or son of a mother whose marriage to your father has ended (separation or divorce). She has now begun dating another man. You hate him. In this post I will offer some ideas you can use to begin understanding your feelings and perhaps doing something about them. Hate is…
Read MoreWe all start out in this life looking for love. That’s a fact. But for some people, disappointment is unfortunately what they find. Eventually some give up on love. Love proves to be too difficult to find or too hurtful when it’s found. Or even worse, love doesn’t hang around for very long after it’s…
Read MoreThis post is one of a series that will show you how to start fixing a particular love-life problem. The love-life problem we’ll focus on is your difficulty finding a lover. Having difficulty finding a lover indicates that you’ve been out there looking around for one. Congratulations, looking for love is always a noble activity. Chances…
Read MoreHave you ever thought of why most people close their eyes when they are kissing? I think it has something to do with going inside during the act of kissing to feel more intensely whatever you are feeling while kissing. When your eyes are closed you get to be inside yourself in a more pronounced…
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