love relationships
In this 21st century, truth is under attack. It is getting progressively harder and harder for us human beings to discern what is true from what is false. When we are no longer able to do so, our ability to live in relation to reality will have been sacrificed. Lies, pretense, and fabrication have become…
You’ve heard of the old research finding that married men live longer than single or divorced men. Of course, that statistic depends upon the quality of their marriages. Nevertheless, I’m going to add my own controversial prediction, drawn from years of clinical experience: if your love life is healthy, single or married, man or woman,…
We come into this world needing love. Love is essential to life and health. When newly born infants are deprived of love there are dire physical and emotional consequences. There are old studies that examined the dire consequences of being born and institutionalized without love. Sickness and behavioral disorder are a common aftereffect. Infant humans…
If you’re in a love relationship and you can’t stop cheating, the first step is to consider the idea that you have an emotional problem. Plainly put, you have an underlying problem with emotional intimacy. If you can accept that you have a love life problem, with enough self-dedication, you’ll be able to change…
Love takes three forms in adulthood: the love we give to another, the love we give to ourselves, and the love we get when love is given to us. Let’s talk about each one of these separately. First there is the love we give to another. This is basically a “self-less” love meant to build up…
Regarding the word “intimacy,” let’s separate the word from its commonly assumed sexual meaning and focus on its usage in the phrase “emotional intimacy.” What is emotional intimacy anyway? I am referring to the ability to form and sustain a healthy loving relationship. Let’s assume that when a person “falls in love,” the actual choice involved in…
Reader, before you read this article, I want you to know something about myself. I do not believe that being in an adult love relationship is required or necessary in order to be a happy and healthy human being. Being an individual and on one’s own, enjoying the freedom, is a lifestyle that many people…
Recovering from the struggle to get out of an expired marriage takes place on several different levels. There is the financial recovery where both individuals work out an agreement, usually involving lawyers or mediators. Then there is the recovery that involves reshaping the relationships the divorcing individuals will have with children, relatives, and mutual friends…
We come into this world needing love. Contrary to some popular opinion, that need never leaves, it simply goes underground. The need for love is a fundamental characteristic of a human being’s life from start to finish. The problem is, there may be times in a person’s life when one’s love life is hurtful. Coping…
We come into this world needing love. If we don’t get the love we need at the beginning of life there are dire consequences, all the way from threats to our physical survival to life long emotional scars. Nevertheless, we human beings are extremely resilient and can learn to survive the hardship of being brought…