infidelity

Why A Married Person Is Attractive

By Dr. Jordan / January 30, 2013 /

For many single people looking for love out there in the singles world, a wedding ring will deter any further interest. But for some people, a married person unhappy with his or her marriage and looking for something extra (a love triangle) is the preferred catch. The most common ‘superficial’ reason for seeking an affair…

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‘Cheating’ For Other Reasons Besides Sex

By Dr. Jordan / January 6, 2013 /

Here’s the situation, you’re in a committed relationship or marriage. After a few years you start to feel dissatisfied and unhappy. You start to feel like there is ‘something missing’ in your love-life. Sex is OK, if not predictable. You still ‘love’ your partner/spouse but something’s wrong. You start to realize that you and your…

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My Lover is a Flirt

By Dr. Jordan / December 24, 2012 /

What is flirting? Flirting is playfully communicating attraction to someone. On the surface it looks like flirting is simply a playful interaction with someone you’re attracted to without the intention of taking it any further. The ‘further’ would be dating, intimacy, love, relationship, etc. Why do people flirt? Flirting communicates interest or desire. It communicates to…

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Sneaking Around With A Married Woman

By Dr. Jordan / December 14, 2012 /

Loving a married woman is dangerous for two reasons. The first reason I’ll mention briefly in this post and refer you for more details to an earlier post entitled, “I Love A Married Woman.” Danger #1: Simply put, the first danger involves the fact that your lover is married. Now you might like that state of…

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My Lover Looks At Other People

By Dr. Jordan / October 29, 2012 /

Your lover looks at other attractive people when he or she is with you. The ‘looking’ might be subtle or more obvious to you and other people. Maybe you didn’t care at first. But now it’s starting to bother you. You’ve told yourself that looking is ‘freedom of vision.’ You’ve told yourself that it doesn’t…

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My Father Cheats On My Mother

By Dr. Jordan / October 19, 2012 /

Much of your love-life thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are learned. Your most important teachers are members of your own family of origin. You learn mostly by observing what members of your family experience in their love-lives. The good news is, if you’ve learned something about love that is complicating your love-life, you can unlearn it…

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I Love A Married Man

By Dr. Jordan / May 10, 2012 /

This is my intro to both this post and its companion post, ‘Loving A Married Woman.’ If you love a married man and you’re in a love relationship with him, read this post. You are engaged in what is commonly thought of as a ‘triangle.’ Triangles are rough on the heart. Fundamentally, they are unstable,…

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Mind of the Cheating Lover

By Dr. Jordan / April 15, 2012 /

People who cheat in a love relationship have a particular kind of psychology. There are four basic components: what they’re afraid of, what they’ve learned in the past about cheating, their limited ability to be intimate in love, and their personality. These four components are always present in the psychology of a person who cheats…

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