Preparing for Love

Technology Affecting Your Love-Life?

By Dr. Jordan / June 12, 2012 / 0 Comments

Machines do for us what we no longer have to do for ourselves. As time goes on we become dependent upon machines and the functions they perform are no longer developed in us. They simply don’t have to be. Should certain functions remain in the realm of human experience only? Which ones? To what extent…

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Love-Life Tip: Be Yourself In Love

By Dr. Jordan / May 24, 2012 / 0 Comments

I’m sure you’ve heard this tired old expression more than once, “be yourself!” It’s the advice we usually give each other when one of us is trying to be something or someone other than who we really are. Unfortunately it is common for a person to try to solve life’s problems by taking on a…

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Love-Life Tip: Tolerate Vulnerability

By Dr. Jordan / May 19, 2012 / 0 Comments

The biggest problem with love is our tendency to avoid the feeling of vulnerability. The way we (humans) do that is to construct defenses to protect ourselves from the discomfort and expected dangers of vulnerability. To be vulnerable is to be open and receptive to what comes from the world and from inside of ourselves.…

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Too Much Work & Not Enough Love?

By Dr. Jordan / May 16, 2012 / 0 Comments

For those of you familiar with Freud. Remember he supposedly said, it’s all about ‘love & work.’ Well, let’s modify that a little bit and say in some instances it’s about ‘love vs. work.’ In this world, if you are looking for a way to temporarily avoid something painful in your personal or interpersonal life,…

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Sick Mother & Her Daughter’s Love-Life

By Dr. Jordan / May 8, 2012 / 0 Comments

This post is about the possible effects of a ‘sick mother’ on a daughter’s adult love-life. My female patients often see a connection between the difficulty they are having in their love-lives and the fact of their own mother’s emotional sickness when they were growing up. This state of ‘sickness’ includes either or both physical and…

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Sick Mother & Her Son’s Love-Life

By Dr. Jordan / May 8, 2012 / 0 Comments

This post is about the possible effects of a ‘sick mother’ on a son’s adult love-life. My male patients often see a connection between the difficulty they are having in their love-lives and the fact of their own mother’s emotional sickness when they were growing up. This state of ‘sickness’ includes either or both physical and…

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Absent Father & His Daughter’s Love-Life

By Dr. Jordan / May 6, 2012 / 0 Comments

This post is about the possible effects of an emotionally absent father on a daughter’s adult love life. Many women see a connection between the difficulty they are having in their love lives and the fact of their own father’s absence when they were growing up. The state of ‘absence’ I am talking about includes both…

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Absent Father & His Son’s Love-Life

By Dr. Jordan / May 5, 2012 / 0 Comments

This post is about the possible effects of an ‘absent father’ on a son’s adult love-life. I meet men who can trace some of the difficulty they are having in their love-lives to the fact of their own father’s emotional and physical absence in their lives. Unfortunately, emotional absence and its close relative ‘neglect’ can…

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Are You Afraid of Love?

By Dr. Jordan / May 3, 2012 / 0 Comments

Are you afraid of love? Welcome to the club. I don’t think there’s a human being alive who hasn’t had the experience of fearing love. Why? What could be scary about love? Isn’t this the feeling we are all looking for? In my opinion, the problem is the vulnerability that comes with love. The only…

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Love-Life Tip: Your Feeling About You

By Dr. Jordan / May 2, 2012 / 0 Comments

Here’s a guarantee at a time when guarantees are rare: change how you feel about you and your love-life will get better. Love-life defined as love in your interpersonal life whether it be in romance, friendship, family, or simply how you feel about people. The point is love has an affinity for positive self-esteem. Now you…

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