Dr. Jordan
A “profession” is different than a job. A job is something you do. A profession is something you are. Professions take dedication and you will probably have to train and wait for it. All of this takes place during adulthood and it is common for professional development to compete with and in many cases interfere…
Read MoreWhy do some couples try to solve their couple problems with “triangular” solutions? By triangle I mean, draw in another person, creating a 3 out of a 2. It usually happens because neither person in the couple, married or not, wants to put in the effort and emotional exposure required to “fix” their relationship, stay…
Read MoreIf you’re dating, this is the very first question to answer. Unfortunately, assumptions can be made on very little information. The most common assumption derived from hope is: he or she is here for a relationship. Sorry, that might not be the case. If you are dating for sex, this article will be of little…
Read MoreIn this age of “falsification” and “alternate facts,” the “Truth” remains as a characteristic of being human that is intrinsic to our natures, especially our ability to love and be loved. When truth is denied, people fall victim to deception and lies that weaken our ability to live and love. There are people in the…
Read MoreWhat happens to your love life if you’re unfortunate enough to be brought up by a sick mother? If you’re not conscious of what you’ve “learned” about love relationships from her…plenty. The two most prominent effects are: 1. You’ll become a “care-giver” when you’re in a love relationship, and; 2. You’ll “keep your love partners…
Read MoreWhat did your family teach you about love? Weird question? I don’t think so. Your family of origin, that classroom you spend your childhood in, taught you all kinds of things about life. In this case, I’m particularly interested in what they’ve taught you about your “love life.” Here’s the problem, chances are pretty good…
Read MoreFree Educational Presentations in Manhattan: “Change What You’ve Learned About Love Relationships and Improve Your Love Life” Dr. Thomas Jordan & Victoria Jordan LCSW We have been clinically researching repetitive love life problems and unhealthy love lives for more than 20 years. In addition to our Healthy Love Life Workshops and Love Life…
Read MoreThe question is, should you stay with someone you don’t love for other reasons besides love? How about money? You get together with someone who has more money than you do. Maybe you marry. You get used to the lifestyle, you like the extras, the wealth. But deep down inside, after the glamour has worn…
Read MoreIf you are considering a marriage to a woman who comes as a “package deal” with a “narcissistic mother” in tow, you need to read this post to understand what you are getting into. First let’s define what I mean by “narcissistic mother.” This is a “self-centered” parent, single or with a husband, who has…
Read MoreYou complete me. How? Now this is a pretty common love life belief with lots of implications. It is very common to fall in love, and experience the person you love as possessing “something” you need, like a piece of a puzzle that is not complete without it. This kind of feeling is very romantic and…
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