Dr. Jordan
You married a man who has not yet separated emotionally from his mother. How can you tell? One very obvious sign is she (mother) will be trying to control her son, you, your marriage, up close and from a distance not long after you’ve married her son. The message to you, his wife (or lover,…
The problem with traumatic experiences is we are “vulnerable” when they occur and we tend to hide them to “protect” ourselves. This simple reaction is understandable but interferes with the healing and resolution that needs to take place. Unresolved traumatic experiences can and will remain in the background of our ongoing experience negatively effecting what…
What is a “Baby Mother?” The definition is the mother of a child, with the implication that the Father or “Baby Father” is not involved or co-parenting the child. In any article dealing with such a topic, in order to be straightforward, I think it’s important to state my “assumptions” outright from the beginning, so…
So you’ve married a person who doesn’t want children. Let’s talk about the less painful forms of this problem before discussing the harder ones. You married someone who is older than you and already has a child or two or three…She/he loves you but won’t commit to another child with you. Obviously the chances of…
A “profession” is different than a job. A job is something you do. A profession is something you are. Professions take dedication and you will probably have to train and wait for it. All of this takes place during adulthood and it is common for professional development to compete with and in many cases interfere…
Why do some couples try to solve their couple problems with “triangular” solutions? By triangle I mean, draw in another person, creating a 3 out of a 2. It usually happens because neither person in the couple, married or not, wants to put in the effort and emotional exposure required to “fix” their relationship, stay…
If you’re dating, this is the very first question to answer. Unfortunately, assumptions can be made on very little information. The most common assumption derived from hope is: he or she is here for a relationship. Sorry, that might not be the case. If you are dating for sex, this article will be of little…
In this age of “falsification” and “alternate facts,” the “Truth” remains as a characteristic of being human that is intrinsic to our natures, especially our ability to love and be loved. When truth is denied, people fall victim to deception and lies that weaken our ability to live and love. There are people in the…
What happens to your love life if you’re unfortunate enough to be brought up by a sick mother? If you’re not conscious of what you’ve “learned” about love relationships from her…plenty. The two most prominent effects are: 1. You’ll become a “care-giver” when you’re in a love relationship, and; 2. You’ll “keep your love partners…
What did your family teach you about love? Weird question? I don’t think so. Your family of origin, that classroom you spend your childhood in, taught you all kinds of things about life. In this case, I’m particularly interested in what they’ve taught you about your “love life.” Here’s the problem, chances are pretty good…