Dr. Jordan

Honesty & Your Ability To Love & Be Loved

By Dr. Jordan / January 22, 2017 /

In this age of “falsification” and “alternate facts,” the “Truth” remains as a characteristic of being human that is intrinsic to our natures, especially our ability to love and be loved. When truth is denied, people fall victim to deception and lies that weaken our ability to live and love. There are people in the…

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My Sick Mother & My Love Life

By Dr. Jordan / October 28, 2016 /

What happens to your love life if you’re unfortunate enough to be brought up by a sick mother? If you’re not conscious of what you’ve “learned” about love relationships from her…plenty. The two most prominent effects are: 1. You’ll become a “care-giver” when you’re in a love relationship, and; 2. You’ll “keep your love partners…

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What Did Your Family Teach You About Love?

By Dr. Jordan / July 8, 2016 /

What did your family teach you about love? Weird question? I don’t think so. Your family of origin, that classroom you spend your childhood in, taught you all kinds of things about life. In this case, I’m particularly interested in what they’ve taught you about your “love life.” Here’s the problem, chances are pretty good…

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Improving the Health of Your Love Life

By Dr. Jordan / May 18, 2016 /

Free Educational Presentations in Manhattan: “Change What You’ve Learned About Love Relationships and Improve Your Love Life”       Dr. Thomas Jordan & Victoria Jordan LCSW We have been clinically researching repetitive love life problems and unhealthy love lives for more than 20 years. In addition to our Healthy Love Life Workshops and Love Life…

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Stay With Someone You Don’t Love?

By Dr. Jordan / February 26, 2016 /

The question is, should you stay with someone you don’t love for other reasons besides love? How about money? You get together with someone who has more money than you do. Maybe you marry. You get used to the lifestyle, you like the extras, the wealth. But deep down inside, after the glamour has worn…

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My Wife’s Narcissistic Mother

By Dr. Jordan / February 14, 2016 /

If you are considering a marriage to a woman who comes as a “package deal” with a “narcissistic mother” in tow, you need to read this post to understand what you are getting into. First let’s define what I mean by “narcissistic mother.” This is a “self-centered” parent, single or with a husband, who has…

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You Complete Me?

By Dr. Jordan / January 8, 2016 /

You complete me. How? Now this is a pretty common love life belief with lots of implications. It is very common to fall in love, and experience the person you love as possessing “something” you need, like a piece of a puzzle that is not complete without it. This kind of feeling is very romantic and…

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Husbands Who Leave Once The Baby Arrives

By Dr. Jordan / December 17, 2015 /

This post is about the experience of losing your husband after your baby is born. Why does this happen in some marriages? What is the psychology of a man who abandons his wife at the point where she gives birth to their child? This is not a pretty love life issue and there are real…

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How Long Do I Wait For A Proposal?

By Dr. Jordan / December 17, 2015 /

You meet someone, fall in love, date, move in, (maybe even have a kid or two – optional), OK so when are you supposed to receive a proposal of marriage? More than a few women have showed up in my office depressed and angry about being in a love relationship with a man who keeps…

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Scary Father-in-law Story

By Dr. Jordan / October 25, 2015 /

This is how I met my future father-in-law. My wife, then my girlfriend, had practically moved into my little apartment. Now it was time to meet the parents. Her parents were no longer married so I had to meet them separately. I’ll focus on her father in this particular post. Victoria arranged a visit. We…

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