Dr. Jordan
Sexual abuse causes an injury to the mind. At earlier times in our lives when we were vulnerable, sexual abuse was psychologically traumatic. This traumatic experience was registered as an injury in the mind. Psychological injuries result in defensive reactions whose purpose is to cope with traumatic aftereffects. Sexual abuse has an impact on what…
Read MoreAs a companion post to ‘Men & Their Feelings,’ I offer you ‘Women & Their Needs.’ Traditionally, woman have been made to believe that they are the weaker sex. Remember that? There was a time in history, and presently in some places, that women were considered possessions. Men married in order to possess a woman…
Read MoreAllow me to dispel any misunderstandings right away, men have feelings, and lots of them. Everybody’s born with them. It’s what we learn to do with them that makes the difference. In this culture men are taught to put some of them away, especially the softer ones. Anger and aggressiveness are OK within certain limits.…
Read MoreControl in any form destroys love. Why? Because it limits and interferes with the freedom that love requires to thrive. The most common reason for trying to control a lover is to avoid getting hurt. My old mentor used to say, “Where did you get the idea you could be in love without getting hurt?”…
Read MoreThere are many people these days who avoid love because deep down inside they don’t believe they can survive a broken heart. They don’t believe in their natural capacity to heal. Plus, they may have had certain love-life disappointments in the past that convinced them to avoid love now in the present. The real tragedy…
Read MoreIt’s difficult to love an active alcoholic without becoming a part of his or her illness. The only hope you have for a better relationship at some point in the future is to become aware of the problem and work your way out of the limited relationship you currently have. This will inevitably simplify the…
Read MoreThere are a few practical steps you can take to start prepping your love-life for change. I’m talking about a psychological preparation for change that doesn’t involve years of therapy or a long analysis of your personal history. I’m talking about a simple inquiry directed at what you believe about your yourself and your love-life.…
Read MoreMost people when they hear about a love relationship that has become abusive feel concern for and protective of the victim. This makes sense. However in this essay I’m going to ask you to take some of that concern and protectiveness and apply it to the abuser. Let’s talk about the abusing person as someone…
Read MoreNew Website Educates About Love-Life Problems The Love-Life Learning Center launched its unique website service for people with love-life problems looking for up to date psychological explanations and solutions. The site’s sole objective is to educate people about better ways to conduct their love-lives by offering a range of audio download products, workshops, tele-seminars, and…
Read MoreAs the photo suggests, some things are built for two people and they require cooperation to work. A bicycle built for two is one of them, a love relationship is another. Despite the common separation of work and romance, if you adopt the value of ‘working’ on your love relationship you’ve discovered one of the…
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