Dr. Jordan
The idea is to be yourself when you fall in love, right? Or should I say, the idea is to stay yourself when you fall in love? I think one of the biggest love-life problems is that people change who they are when they make a commitment to love. Before the commitment many couples have more fun and enjoy…
The ‘double standard’ essentially refers to the fact there is still a significant inequality between men and women in areas where there shouldn’t be. It simply means men and women are still on occasion judged by a separate and different sent of standards. One standard for men, and one standard for women. The usual critique…
Loving someone who doesn’t love you has got to be one of the most disappointing love-life problems out there. The only way it would be worse is if you and the person you love were together for a while and then he or she fell out of love with you. In either case, you want…
Years ago, the single man who chose to remain single as an adult was considered by many to be a a novelty but by no means an anomaly. He was a ‘playboy’ or ‘bachelor’ and envied by some who fantasized about multiple sexual encounters and self-determination. This single man was protected by a double standard…
Have you ever encountered this kind of love-life problem? You are in a love relationship with someone you are falling in love with or have fallen in love with and he or she says to you when you inquire about marriage, “I can’t marry you but I love you.” Nine times out of ten the reason…
Some men are used only for their sperm. This should not come as a shock to anyone. Changes in attitudes towards physical procreation aided by modern science have made this more common and acceptable. But it’s the psychological part that needs exploration and understanding. There are two types of sperm donor Dads that come to…
At one point long ago the word ‘alone’ was ‘all-one.’ The underlying meaning of the word changed from a positive emphasis on ‘oneness’ or individuality to the negative implication of being unhappy ‘by oneself.’ Now when we use the word alone, most people will think of an experience worth avoiding. As in “I’m all alone.”…
Not long ago they had us believing that men and women came from different planets. That an understanding of their different planetary languages would help us figure out our problems with love. I assure you, men and women come from the same planet. In fact that’s where the great hope comes from that men and…
Remember, if you are financially and/or emotionally supporting a dysfunctional lover, chances are you are codependent. What this essentially means is you are part of the problem. The only way your dysfunctional lover can remain dysfunctional is if he or she finds and maintains a dysfunctional love relationship with somebody like you. Somebody who is…