Dr. Jordan
You’ll know you’re in ‘true love’ if hurting the person you love hurts you as well. If this happens to you, you are sympathetically connected with another person. Now this might be a little scary to some of you, you know, the prospect of being connected like this. It will be particularly difficult for those of…
Do you know what your family taught you about love? All families teach their children about love during the course of childhood and adolescence and sometimes beyond. The best you can hope for is that the love lessons you learned were positive and useful. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. Mostly because we can’t…
A single eligible woman said to a married man who was ‘hitting on her’ at a party, “Aren’t you married?” The married man responded with “I’m not married my wife’s married.” This bit of semi-humorous ‘cheat speak’ is a justification of cheating based on the belief that different commitment rules apply to men and women. For this guy,…
Are you being ‘guilted’ by someone you love? This occurs when the person you love leverages your experience and/or actions with guilt. “If you don’t give me what I need, my life will fall apart!” “Please don’t leave, I’m nothing without you.” “If you see your friends tonight it will hurt my feelings.” The act…
There seems to be a little controversy brewing at LLLC between the people who think choosing to remain single is tragic and people who believe that every individual should have the right to choose to be single. Great! I’d like to weigh in with a few thoughts and reflections on the issue of ‘choosing to…
What is the Madonna-Whore Syndrome and is this still relevant to our love lives in the 21st century? A man came to see me the other day. He complained that he was in love with two women. One woman he had a child with and…
We are all taught how to learn from a very early age. Educational achievement is strongly emphasized and valued in this culture and many other cultures around the world. This emphasis on education has created an ability to learn and apply what was learned in our everyday lives. The one learning topic that is overlooked…
As far as I’m concerned, if you marry your best friend the chances are good that you’ll have a great marriage to look forward to. My formula for a great marriage is a relationship that contains three essential ingredients: romance, partnership and friendship. Romance speaks for itself. You have to have a good dose of…
How can you tell you are trying to relate to a narcissistic person? The feeling you get when you’re together is it’s all about him or her. The reciprocity that is commonly found between two people interested in each other is mostly absent. Questions directed at you are really only a preamble that redirects a…