Healthy Love

Welcome

Helloabout2, I’m Dr. Thomas Jordan, and standing next to me is my wife and colleague, Victoria Jordan LCSW. I’m a clinical psychologist and Victoria is an experienced couple and family therapist. Welcome to our Love Life Learning Center. 

Do you have love life problems? If your answer is yes, you’ll need information to help you understand your love life problems and how to solve them. This website was built to help you find the information you’ll need. Becoming aware of your love life issues and getting accurate information will help you make successful changes in your love life.

In person (New York City) and phone consultations are available for anyone needing to become aware of and change what they’ve learned about love relationships so they can improve their love lives. Please direct your inquiries to Dr. Jordan at drtmjordan@gmail.com or 212.875.0154.



Audio Series: Prepare For A Future Love Relationship

Audio Series: Prepare For A Future Love Relationship

If you feel emotionally unprepared for a love relationship in your life, this audio download series will provide you with... View More

Audio Series: Prepare For A Future Love Relationship

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If you feel emotionally unprepared for a love relationship in your life, this audio download series will provide you with some practical ideas on how to get yourself psychologically ready for your next love relationship. When love arrives you’ll be better prepared to receive it and take proper care of it. You can prepare for love by knowing and practicing the most receptive state of mind, and by learning how to create the type of relationship that can best contain and grow love when it arrives. This audio download starts with a discussion of the emotional experience of living without a lover. From there I focus on the things you can do to psychologically prepare yourself for the next experience of love.

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Audio Series: Need To Leave Your Love Relationship?

Audio Series: Need To Leave Your Love Relationship?

If you need to leave your love relationship and you’re struggling with the emotions involved, this audio series will provide... View More

Audio Series: Need To Leave Your Love Relationship?

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If you need to leave your love relationship and you’re struggling with the emotions involved, this audio series will provide you with the information you’ll need to leave in the healthiest way possible. This audio starts with a discussion of the different feelings that occur when leaving a relationship. I discuss the experience of constructively ending a relationship, how you can tell if your relationship is over, and the various ways you might convince yourself to stay in the relationship even when you know it’s time to go. I’ll discuss ways to leave your  relationship, what to do if you don’t feel ready to leave, and some false beliefs that support unhealthy ways of leaving.

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Audio Series: Going Through A Divorce?

Audio Series: Going Through A Divorce?

If you’re going through a divorce and need to better understand the emotional issues involved, this audio download series contains... View More

Audio Series: Going Through A Divorce?

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If you’re going through a divorce and need to better understand the emotional issues involved, this audio download series contains the information you’ll need to successfully get yourself through this emotional crisis in your love-life. I start with a discussion of the various emotional experiences you’ll have and can expect to have as you go through the divorce process. I’ll focus on the emotional ‘stages’ of a divorce and a few false beliefs about marriage and divorce that can make the experience of divorce more difficult.

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Audio Series: Family Of Origin Interfering…?

Audio Series: Family Of Origin Interfering…?

If your family of origin is interfering with your love-life choices, this audio download series will provide you with the... View More

Audio Series: Family Of Origin Interfering…?

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If your family of origin is interfering with your love-life choices, this audio download series will provide you with the information you’ll need to develop your own personal strategy to take back your love-life. I’ll discuss how you’ve been sacrificing your love-life. I’ll also talk about a healthy family’s psychological objective of helping grown children create positive self-esteem, an ability to be in love, and a love-life beyond the family of origin. You’ll understand the various ways your family can interfere with your developing ability to love a stranger beyond your family and what to do about it. This audio download ends with a challenging discussion of the false beliefs you might have that support an underdeveloped love-life.

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Audio Series: Your Lover Cheated On You?

Audio Series: Your Lover Cheated On You?

If your lover has cheated on you, or you suspect your lover will cheat on you, and you’re not sure... View More

Audio Series: Your Lover Cheated On You?

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If your lover has cheated on you, or you suspect your lover will cheat on you, and you’re not sure what to do about it, this audio download series will give you the information you’ll need to make the right decisions for yourself. I’ll start with a discussion of what you’re going through having to deal with this critical love-life problem. I describe the decisions you’ll need to make to figure out whether or not you’ll be able to fix this problem in your love relationship. I’ll review the various things you’ll need to consider if you want to recommit to your relationship or choose to leave the relationship. I close with a discussion of some of the false beliefs you might have that interfere with solving the problem of cheating or infidelity.

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Audio Series: Is Your Lover Abusive?

Audio Series: Is Your Lover Abusive?

If you’re in an abusive love relationship and you’re not sure what to do about it, this audio download series... View More

Audio Series: Is Your Lover Abusive?

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If you’re in an abusive love relationship and you’re not sure what to do about it, this audio download series will provide you with the information you’ll need to begin changing your love-life. This audio begins with a discussion of the types of abuse that can occur in a love relationship. I will talk about the feelings you’re struggling with, and help you understand the limited beliefs you may have about yourself, your lover, and your relationship that support and promote abuse. I’ll offer you alternative ideas and an understanding that will help you make improvements in your love-life.

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Audio Series: How To Save Your Love Relationship

Audio Series: How To Save Your Love Relationship

If you’re in trouble with your lover and you need to know how to ‘work’ on your love relationship, this... View More

Audio Series: How To Save Your Love Relationship

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If you’re in trouble with your lover and you need to know how to ‘work’ on your love relationship, this audio download series will discuss the various ways you can begin improving your relationship. I’ll discuss the psychological issues involved in promoting and sustaining a healthy love relationship. I’ll present practical ideas you can immediately use to develop your relationship. Topics like the importance of communication in sustaining a relationship, and managing the influence of your families of origin. I’ll also discuss the issue of emotional independence, and letting go of earlier love-life disappointments that may be negatively affecting your love relationship.

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Audio Series: Hooked On Pornography?

Audio Series: Hooked On Pornography?

If you’re addicted to pornography, this audio series will provide you with the information needed to understand your addiction and... View More

Audio Series: Hooked On Pornography?

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If you’re addicted to pornography, this audio series will provide you with the information needed to understand your addiction and reduce your dependence. I invite you to think about pornography in new and different ways. Join me in an open-minded understanding of what pornography really is. I’ll offer you psychological information that empowers you to understand pornography, why it’s so addictive, and how to loosen the hold it has on your emotions. The more you understand pornography and it effects on you, the better able you’ll be to take the practical steps needed to control its influence and get help if you can’t. CAUTION: This audio contains some explicit sexual language used for the purpose of illustration.

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Audio Series: Avoiding A Love Commitment?

Audio Series: Avoiding A Love Commitment?

If you’re having a difficult time making a love commitment either for the first time or as a recurrent pattern... View More

Audio Series: Avoiding A Love Commitment?

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If you’re having a difficult time making a love commitment either for the first time or as a recurrent pattern in your love-life, this audio download series will give you the information you’ll need to take the risk. I’ll discuss what a love commitment involves, and the freedom that occurs when you fall in love, commit to that love, and decide to stop searching for love. I’ll talk about the various ways you might be avoiding a commitment and discuss a few beliefs and psychological defenses you might have that support an avoidance of commitment. This audio concludes with a practical discussion of the various things you can do to make a commitment easier to risk.

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Audio Series: Trying To Cope With Loneliness?

Audio Series: Trying To Cope With Loneliness?

If you are experiencing loneliness and would like to deepen your understanding of this problem and explore solutions, this audio... View More

Audio Series: Trying To Cope With Loneliness?

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If you are experiencing loneliness and would like to deepen your understanding of this problem and explore solutions, this audio download series will provide you with the information you’ll need to get started. I begin this audio series with a discussion of what loneliness is. I talk about the different types of loneliness, and describe the primary causes of loneliness, namely, trouble connecting to someone and trouble being by your self. I then challenge a few ways of thinking that can promote loneliness in your life and present the various tasks involved in a psychological solution to loneliness.

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Audio Series: Safe Internet Dating-How To Spot Bad Dates

Audio Series: Safe Internet Dating-How To Spot Bad Dates

If you’re thinking about using internet dating sites to meet people, or you’ve used them before without success, or you’ve... View More

Audio Series: Safe Internet Dating-How To Spot Bad Dates

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If you’re thinking about using internet dating sites to meet people, or you’ve used them before without success, or you’ve had bad experiences online, this audio series can help you understand the psychological issues involved. I’ll talk about ‘meeting of the minds’ online versus ‘meeting of the bodies’ in traditional dating, and the problem with identifying who you’re talking to. I speak about ‘misrepresentation’ and how to beat it with questions, your natural sensitivity to deception, and use of time. I conclude with an effective model of internet dating and challenge a few false ideas that could interfere with your goal to meet eligible people online.

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Audio Series: How To Choose A Good Husband Or Wife

Audio Series: How To Choose A Good Husband Or Wife

If you’re thinking about marriage but aren’t sure how to pick a good spouse, this audio series provides you with... View More

Audio Series: How To Choose A Good Husband Or Wife

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If you’re thinking about marriage but aren’t sure how to pick a good spouse, this audio series provides you with the psychological information needed when choosing a spouse. I talk about what can interfere with choosing the best spouse, and describe the kind of relationship that will grow your love and make it last. I’ll discuss the issues involved in figuring out your lover’s readiness for marriage by clarifying the things you’d want and not want in your marriage. I conclude with the questions you should ask yourself when contemplating marriage and challenge some ideas that could interfere with making the right choice.

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Love-Life Learning Center – Disclaimers

The Love-Life Learning Center online is a psycho-educational website/blog offering love-life related psycho-educational materials and activities including free website/blog content, and audio downloads/podcasts and tele-seminars for sale, to individual users with a broad range of love-life problems. Users are English-speaking adult men and women twenty-one (21) years of age and older.

Not Treatment

The Love-Life Learning Center is a psycho-educational website/blog focused exclusively upon educating adult men and women about the psychology of love-life issues and problems. Our Love-Life Learning Center’s psycho-educational materials and website/blog activities are not psychotherapy, counseling, or a mental health treatment or therapy of any kind, nor should a Love-Life Learning Center’s psycho-educational materials or website/blog activities be used as a substitute for psychotherapy or other appropriate and necessary mental health treatments and services.

The Love-Life Learning Center’s materials and website/blog activities are not a psychiatric treatment for psychiatric symptoms or illness, nor should any of our psycho-educational materials or website/blog activities be used as a substitute for appropriate and necessary psychiatric treatments and services.

The Love-Life Learning Center’s materials and website/blog activities
are not a medical treatment. Our psycho-educational materials and website/blog activities will not prevent, cure, or treat any kind of medical, psychiatric, or psychological illness or problem, nor should our psycho-educational materials or wbsite/blog activities be utilized as a substitute for appropriate and necessary medical treatments and services. If you are currently suffering from suicidal, homicidal, or psychotic symptoms, or mental illness of any kind you should seek appropriate psychiatric and/or psychotherapeutic services at a hospital or clinic in your area.

The Love-Life Learning Center’s materials and website/blog activities are not an emergency or clinical service of any kind. The Love-Life Learning Center does not guarantee that your love-life, love relationships, or dating experiences, general health, or well-being will improve or be positively affected by listening to and/or reading its psycho-educational materials or participating in its website/blog activities.

The use of e-mail correspondence or tele-seminar services or any other website/blog activities at the Love-Life Learning Center website does not intend to be or portray it self to be nor should it be used as a substitute for a mental health therapy, counseling, or clinical treatment of any kind.

Responsibility

The Love-Life Learning Center is not responsible for any real or imagined damages that occur as a consequence of reading or listening to our psycho-educational materials or audio downloads/podcasts or participating in any other activity at our website/blog.

The Love-Life Learning Center is not responsible for any psychological distress or emotional upset purported to be caused by our psycho-educational materials read or listened to, free or purchased at our website/blog, or while participating in any activity at our website/blog.

Intentions

The Love-Life Learning Center is a privately owned and operated online psycho-educational service and has no relationship to or connection with any offline agencies bearing the same name or a similar name that provide services to individuals with love-life problems or other topics related to or unrelated to love-life issues, themes, or problems.
The Love-Life Learning Center is a psycho-educational service exclusively for adult men and women who are 21 years old and older. This service is not intended for children, adolescents, and young adults under the age of twenty-one (21), with or without parental consent.

The Love-Life Learning Center is a psycho-educational service with an exclusive focus on love-life problems, solutions, and general love-life learning issues. The Love-Life Learning Center is not an adult oriented website for the purpose of fostering adult oriented sexual activities, sexual fantasies, or other related adult-oriented entertainment.

The Love-Life Learning Center is not a dating or introductory service for men and women seeking dating, meeting, and/or networking experiences.

The Love-Life Learning Center is not for the procurement of online cyber-sexual contact or as a prelude to offline sexual contact or relations.

Competence & Authorship

The Love-Life Learning Center website/blog is owned and operated by T. M. Jordan, Ph.D., Psychologist, P.C. a New York State based corporation. The views espoused in the psycho-educational free text and audio downloads/podcasts available at the Love-Life Learning Center website/blog solely reflect the views of its owners and operators. Individual users participating in any and all of the Love-Life Learning Center’s website/blog activities are solely and exclusively responsible for their own written and/or verbally expressed love-life and/or not love-life related viewpoints.

Confidentiality

Any person reading or listening to free and/or purchased psycho- educational materials or participating in any website/blog activities at the Love-Life Learning Center is encouraged to remain anonymous except in the reporting of personal information for the purpose of making a credit payment. This personal information is utilized by our credit processing company for sales related activities and subject to their rules and regulations. The Love-Life Learning Center cannot be held responsible for any intentional or unintentional breach of this agreement to remain voluntarily anonymous before, during, and after utilizing its free or for sale psycho-educational materials or while participating in any website/blog activities.

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As a user of free or for sale psycho-educational materials or webite/blog activities at the Love-Life Learning Center website/blog you agree to indemnify the Love-Life Learning Center together with its corporate officers, agents, employees, affiliates, parent companies, representatives, directors, shareholders and service providers and hold them harmless from any and all claims, fees, including but not limited to reasonable counsel fees, costs, judgments, damages and causes of action arising from or related to your use of its psycho-educational materials and/or audio downloads/podcasts and/or any and all of its website/blog activities.