love-life
For centuries, philosophers have told us that ‘self-less’ love is the ideal love. Self-less meaning, you love another without any self-interst. If you’re interested in having love in your life and you adopt self-less loving as your goal, you’ll never really get there. It’s as unrealistic and lopsided as a life of total self-interest. Self-less…
Read MoreIt’s time to share a little love-life secret with all my female readers (and I’m going to assume a lot of you already know this). My old friend Ben, whom I believe understood love better than most, used to say to me, in this world women ‘sensitize’ men in a love relationship. To ‘sensitize’ means,…
Read MoreGiven our contemporary fascination with ‘dead that moves,’ like walking death, warm corpses, and an assortment of living zombies, I thought it only fitting to write about ‘dead love.’ Paying close attention to the title of this post, you’ll recognize the phrase as an excerpt from traditional marriage vows. The literal meaning is, you’re making…
Read MoreIf you believe anger has a prominent place in every love relationship, you probably envision a relationship as a an arrangement between two people that can tolerate a heated exchange of angry feelings. For some people, this would be the true test of love. Ideally, you’d have two people facing off cooperatively engaged in an alternating blast of…
Read MoreAre you obsessed with how many people someone you love has slept with? Why? What kind of information does this provide? Let’s talk about some of the more common questions this kind of information is meant to answer. Does it tell you how experienced your lover is sexually? This one’s easy. If your lover has had…
Read MoreThis post is meant to be a ‘quick reference’ or ‘crash course’ for anyone who thinks he or she is being abused while dating, in a love relationship or marriage. Once you’ve identified that you are being abused in one of the ways depicted in this post, the cure is always to ‘STOP THE ABUSE’…
Read MoreNo matter what kind of couple you want to be in, there are things you can do psychologically to help you get there. One of the most potent is to make yourself into the person, you would like the person you love, or would love, to love. Bet you can’t say that…
Read MoreThis post is about the ‘obsessive pursuer’ or what is commonly know as the ‘pest.’ Basically, the man or woman who keeps on trying to go out with you even after you’ve said no to him or her over and over again. On the surface of things, pests are working with the expectation that ‘persistence’ will…
Read MoreFor many single people looking for love out there in the singles world, a wedding ring will deter any further interest. But for some people, a married person unhappy with his or her marriage and looking for something extra (a love triangle) is the preferred catch. The most common ‘superficial’ reason for seeking an affair…
Read MoreA patient told me the other day that she was at a party and a lot of the party goers were asking each other whether or not they had any Xanex. Apparently this is the new fad party drug. For those of you that don’t know what this is, I’ll fill you in. Xanex is…
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