love-life

Your Love Life & Job Performance

By Dr. Jordan / January 31, 2018 /

I’m sure you’ve heard of that old statistic that married men live longer and healthier than single men. I figure it has something to do with the fact that when you find love, worth marrying, something settles in you, therefore the phrase “settle down.” I think the same thing applies to women, and your physical…

My Husband’s Narcissistic Mother

By Dr. Jordan / January 18, 2018 /

You married a man who has not yet separated emotionally from his mother. How can you tell? One very obvious sign is she (mother) will be trying to control her son, you, your marriage, up close and from a distance not long after you’ve married her son. The message to you, his wife (or lover,…

Baby Mother & Baby Father Syndrome

By Dr. Jordan / January 6, 2018 /

What is a “Baby Mother?” The definition is the mother of a child, with the implication that the Father or “Baby Father” is not involved or co-parenting the child. In any article dealing with such a topic, in order to be straightforward, I think it’s important to state my “assumptions” outright from the beginning, so…

Professional Person’s Love Life Struggles

By Dr. Jordan / August 15, 2017 /

A “profession” is different than a job. A job is something you do. A profession is something you are. Professions take dedication and you will probably have to train and wait for it. All of this takes place during adulthood and it is common for professional development to compete with and in many cases interfere…

My Sick Mother & My Love Life

By Dr. Jordan / October 28, 2016 /

What happens to your love life if you’re unfortunate enough to be brought up by a sick mother? If you’re not conscious of what you’ve “learned” about love relationships from her…plenty. The two most prominent effects are: 1. You’ll become a “care-giver” when you’re in a love relationship, and; 2. You’ll “keep your love partners…

Don’t Stop ‘Dating’ Your Wife or Husband

By Dr. Jordan / July 13, 2015 /

Don’t stop dating your wife or husband. Sounds strange right? If you’re already married why would you date your husband or wife? Because ‘dating’ has a lot to do with what you felt for each other at the beginning of your relationship. Dating is what a couple does when they are interested in each other.…

Killing Love On St. Valentine’s Day?

By Dr. Jordan / February 13, 2015 /

An article appeared in Psychology Today that offers an understanding of why some people break up on St. Valentine’s Day. I’d like to weigh in with what I believe to be a much simpler explanation. St. Valentine’s Day is a day devoted to love and romance, right? But more than that, it’s also a day…

eBook Excerpt “Relearning Honesty in Love”

By Dr. Jordan / March 14, 2014 /

The following excerpt is from my new eBook entitled: HEALTHY LOVE RELATIONSHIP: LEARN HOW. Excerpt from Chapter 14  “Relearning To be Honest In Love” Imagine, Cupid’s arrow is poised and ready to deliver the emergent feeling of love. But the little guy can’t quite find his target. This is precisely what happens when honesty is…

Do We Need Marriage Anymore??

By Dr. Jordan / February 13, 2014 /

Yes, yes, absolutely yes! Why? We must protect the opportunities we have to “deepen” love with “commitment.” Why? Because only through commitment does love deepen, really deepen. Now this is not to say commitment has to mean marriage. I believe it is entirely possible to commit to someone you never marry. People do this all…

Leaving An Abusive Relationship

By Dr. Jordan / March 17, 2013 /

This post is about breaking up with someone who is being abusive. In a previous post, Am I Being Abused In My Love-Life, we learned that there are several types of relationship abuse: verbal, emotional, physical, sexual, and financial. If you decide to leave a relationship when one or more of these abuses are occurring, it’s important to…