Dr. Jordan
Being ashamed of yourself is one of the most painful feelings to have, and as you might have already guessed, has a very destructive effect on your love-life. The opposite of shame is self-acceptance. Self-acceptance simply means, you are OK with yourself, regardless of what other people think. What exactly is shame? Humiliation and distress…
Your lover, wife, or husband is mentally ill. You love him/her so much. But living together can be difficult and demanding at times. How do you cope with this situation without getting sick yourself? First off, you’re probably a ‘caretaker.’ Has anyone ever said that to you? People who are chronically ill, predisposed to illness,…
The contemporary objective for gay and lesbian couples seeking marriage is to create a healthy gay marriage in what has been until now a largely heterosexual institution. Before delving into this topic it is important for interested readers to realize that some gay persons have been living as ‘married’ couples long before gay marriage became…
A love-life ‘confrontation,’ as I wish to use the word in this post, involves getting in your lover’s face and letting him or her know in a direct way that you don’t like something he or she is doing. Most of the time a confrontation is needed because: 1. what he or she is doing…
In my experience, the love life problems that cause the most illness are: 1. breakup of a love relationship resulting in separation and divorce, if married; 2. chronic feelings of loneliness when living alone; 3. chronic mistreatment or abuse in a love relationship; 4. death of a lover or spouse. The most common forms of…
Let’s talk about awkwardness. First there’s awkwardness the a human experience that can happen to anybody under the right social conditions. Then there’s awkwardness that occurs frequently enough to be considered a personality trait. But what is awkwardness? Awkwardness occurs when your concern about another person’s opinions, judgments, or feelings outweighs your ability to confidently…
Here’s a love-life problem that can be painful. A couple get married and at some point, perhaps after a couple of kids, the wife finds out her husband is gay. I have treated a person or two with this love-life problem over the years. Treatment essentially helps the wife grieve the loss of the relationship,…
This post is one of a series that will show you how to start fixing a particular love-life problem. The love-life problem we’ll focus on is the feeling of being emotionally unprepared for love in your life. The limiting belief that is usually causing this feeling of not being prepared for love goes something like this:…
The definition of the phrase ‘love-life’ extends to other forms of love besides romance. Another form of love is the love that exists between children and their parents. In fact, the complete list of love types I might refer to on this website include romance, family love, friendship love, love of humanity, and spiritual love.…
Your parents are divorced. Your father met someone new and now he has a girlfriend. Maybe she’s younger than him, maybe she’s not. The trouble is, you don’t like her. Maybe you didn’t like her from the moment you met her, maybe it took a little while before you were turned off. The point is,…