Dr. Jordan
The familiar (root is the word family) can have a relentless grasp upon our emotional lives. Most of us don’t know this. We simply seek it throughout life unaware. Which means that we recreate it repetitively because that is what we have learned. Problem is, the familiar can be healthy and a guide to a…
Read MoreMy love life research has taught me that our love lives are in our minds. What you’ve unconsciously learned about love relationships from the relationship experiences you’ve had in life is in control of your love life. As illustrated by the individual in the image pointing toward his own mind as he symbolically contemplates his…
Read MoreRegarding the word “intimacy,” let’s separate the word from its commonly assumed sexual meaning and focus on its usage in the phrase “emotional intimacy.” What is emotional intimacy anyway? I am referring to the ability to form and sustain a healthy loving relationship. Let’s assume that when a person “falls in love,” the actual choice involved in…
Read MoreThis is my intro to both this post and its companion post, ‘Loving A Married Woman.’ If you love a married man and you’re in a love relationship with him, read this post. You are engaged in what is commonly thought of as a ‘triangle.’ Triangles are rough on the heart. Fundamentally, they are unstable,…
Read MoreMost of us would agree that the emotion of love is an essential ingredient for healthy development. When love is absent or distorted in the context of unhealthy relationships, unhealthy personality and interpersonal consequences are for certain. The unfortunate reality is there are many parents raising children who have been exposed to unhealthy loving in…
Read MoreIs it time to work on your love life? Odd question? We work on everything else: social life, work life, family life, financial life… We have a divorce rate that remains steady at somewhere around 50% and it gets higher for second and third marriages. Maybe we’ve gotten complacent and accept the inevitability of a…
Read MoreIf you’re done making the same old love life mistakes in your disappointing love life and it’s time to really work on your love life….the most important question you have to answer is: What kind of relationship do you form when you fall in love? Is it healthy? Unhealthy? Is the relationship you form when you…
Read MoreReader, before you read this article, I want you to know something about myself. I do not believe that being in an adult love relationship is required or necessary in order to be a happy and healthy human being. Being an individual and on one’s own, enjoying the freedom, is a lifestyle that many people…
Read MoreRecovering from the struggle to get out of an expired marriage takes places on several different levels. There is the financial recovery where both individuals work out an agreement, usually involving lawyers or mediators. Then there is the recovery that involves reshaping the relationships the divorcing individuals will have with children, relatives, and mutual friends…
Read MoreWe come into this world needing love. Contrary to some popular opinion, that need never leaves, it simply goes underground. The need for love is a fundamental characteristic of a human being’s life from start to finish. The problem is, there may be times in a person’s life when one’s love life is hurtful. Coping…
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