Love After The Pandemic

 

Remember the phrase, “we are at our best when we are at our worst.” I believe our best is the love that is possible between people. Our worst is the sickness, death, and grief that occurs when we are living through a global pandemic. So what does this really mean?

Why aren’t we at our best when we’re at our best? Because we human beings lose site of the important things in life. We’re busy ourselves chasing after the various things in life we consider important, whether or not they really are. It’s only when we’re forced to stop and feel, to reconsider, that we once again realign ourselves and remind ourselves of what is truly important in life.

Another common example, on a much less devastating scale, is the life enhancing reaction many people have to the death of a love one. We not only grieve, but remember how important life is, and how living needs to be appreciated in moments of time to be fully lived. I can remember when my mother passed away. Sitting at the funeral thinking to myself that no matter how much time I have left in my life, I need to live each day as if it is my last. Easier said than done, because of all the distractions that inevitably occur. Nevertheless, I personally find the practice of being in love and being loving is the best way of expressing this fullness of living.

Many of us will live through the pain of loss and grief as a result of this global pandemic. Many of us will lose a person or persons we have loved. But many of us will once again be reminded of how important life is, and more specifically, how important love is, right now, and in the future. After WWII, a baby boom occurred because 50,000,000 people died as a consequence of devastating world war. People were so happy to be free again to focus on life and love.

After this pandemic, we will again be free enough to focus on life and love. Once again, we’ll be at our best because we were at our worst.

Dr. Thomas Jordan, author of Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life

Dr. Jordan

Dr. Thomas Jordan is a clinical psychologist, certified interpersonal psychoanalyst, author, professor, and love life researcher.