Love & Children
So you’ve married a person who doesn’t want children. Let’s talk about the less painful forms of this problem before discussing the harder ones. You married someone who is older than you and already has a child or two or three…She/he loves you but won’t commit to another child with you. Obviously the chances of…
Read MoreThis post is about couples who avoid their “couple issues” by over-focusing instead on the children they are responsible to raise. We could say this is an old “defense mechanism” meant to decrease the stress and unhappiness involved in the differences and difficulties that can and will come up between two people. If this is…
Read MoreI’m going to assume that people who want kids and people who don’t want kids might read this post. I know this to be a pretty sensitive topic. As far as I’m concerned there is no right or wrong here, just personal choices. Perhaps the rule of thumb should be: find someone that wants what…
Read MoreYou’re married and your husband is pressuring you to get pregnant. The pressure is making you uncomfortable but you haven’t said anything about it yet. It raises questions in your mind about your relationship. Why is it so important for my husband to have a baby? Let’s say you’re OK with having a child or two,…
Read MoreYou fell in love. The only problem is the man has a kid. Is this your problem and if so why? In this post we’ll talk about the pros and cons to falling in love with a ‘single’ man who has a kid (or in some cases more than one). If you made some kind…
Read MoreYou fell in love with a woman who has a child from another man. She may have been married or not. The point is she has a kid. She comes as a ‘package deal.’ You’ve sworn up and down that you would never get involved, really involved, with a woman who has a child. As…
Read MoreHere’s your situation, you had a baby and you are raising your child on your own. The father of your child does not give you child support and you’ve been reluctant to take him to court. Should you take him to family court? Let’s explore the pros and cons in your mind. You’ve probably either…
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